Hi guys, so the thing is I am pretty much in the closet with the exception of my mom and therapists. I have tried different things to work with my internalized homophobia (support group, speed dating event) and now there is this meet up happening tonight at a lesbian only bar I know. I have been there before when I went speed dating and, even though, I feel that speed dating was very intimidating until I got there, I am feeling incredibly nervous as I don't know what to expect...any advice???thanks!!!xxx
What a great way to make yourself vulnerable and take a risk! of course your nervous. Who would not be? Just push yourself to go and see how it turns out. In this type of situation, I often would pretend that I am a race horse. The gates open, I have blinders on my eyes. I can only see directly in front of me. I can not see behind and I can not see from the sides, so I have no idea what is coming at me. But I stay focused on the objective of getting to the finish line. in this instance, the finish line is attending the meet up, participating and taking a risk. Have fun!
Be honest. "I've never done this sort of thing, and I'm kind of nervous. But I'm excited to see what this is like." Lex