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feels like it only gets harder?

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by CL1990, May 5, 2017.

  1. CL1990

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    hey all,

    I havnt written in a while but I feel like my feelings are overwhelming and even though I came out to my mom, best friend and im going to support group and therapy and a couple random meetups I generally feel hopeless

    I feel like my old patterns keep repeting: I cant seem to find lesbian girls I meet attractive and I only fall for strangers (mainly from work) who are most probably straight...this Is obviously heartbreaking and, since im 26 and have never been with a girl, it is very difficult for me to live like this...anyone going through a similar situation?any advice?
     
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    Is there anything in particular about the lesbians you meet that you're not attracted to? How do you know they are lesbians?

    Feel free to write on my wall if it'll be easier to talk more about this
     
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    so I have met these lesbians in bars/support groups or even people I get introduced to but I just don't feel attraction. I do feel like I have a type (however shallow that is)
     
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    There's nothing wrong with having a type. I prefer butch women however I don't attract them.

    So what's your type?
     
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    my type would be blonde girly girls!! :frowning2: I always thought I didn't have a type but looking back I always find those girls attractive...too bad I am certain they are straight...sad times!!!
     
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    Not all blond girly girls will be straight. Just persevere with going out and try to start picking up on body language etc to see if you can get a better read on a woman you like
     
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    Hey I am not in your situation but I went through a similar kind of situation in that I didn't figure out my sexuality until I was in my mid 20's. I'd never kissed anyone let alone a girl and I felt like I was never going to find someone.
    You are doing the right kind of things, but unfortunately you just never know when the right girl is going to show her face even if you are putting yourself out there.
    I'm sure there are some blonde lesbians out there for you :slight_smile:.
    How long have you been out?