I am currently pretty much in the closet and the only LGBT activity im fully engaging in is a support group I go every other week. I have found that this is now in my confort zone. I have gone to a few organized meetups at bars but I find that it feels too "predatory" for me and I cant seem to find anyone there attractive...just wanted to check with you guys what helped you more?
What made me comfortable with myself? Wasting energy on meticulously destroying my abilities to feel romantic/physical attraction. If you can't like it, change it :icon_bigg Otherwise, yeah, I'd like to know what the others have to say about that.
I don't really do LGBT meet-ups or groups (outside of this forum). I didn't really need that environment to feel comfortable with my sexuality though, it just comes from within.
How do you find the support group? Helpful? I think I became comfortable with myself at the beginning by talking to like minded people on EC and then by trying to work with balancing pushing myself to come out to people and then once I had pushed myself out of my comfort zone learning to be comfortable within the new environment. Do you have a particular stumbling block like, do you have doubts over your same sex attraction or internalized homophobia or conservative friends and family. Is there 1 particular thing you are most worried about or just generally?
I know I have some internalized homophobia which does make things difficult for me, but it's not surprising considering that my Dad is one of the most vocal, homophobic men you can meet...! He is very religious in the traditional sense and talks a great deal about his opinions, including homophobic ones.... :icon_sad: But the advantage I guess should be that I can understand other people who also have internalised homophobia and can offer them my support and my friendship even if they are scared of my love. Even when I want to offer them my love.
That is an advantage, and you are a very insightful and sensitive person to see that. If only there were a different way to be compassionate, besides suffering. Still, I hope that you can quiet that internalized nonsense.