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Talking about sexuality, but afraid of it?

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by Iliricon, May 8, 2017.

  1. Iliricon

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    Hi everybody,

    so I've identified a weird and incredibly annoying thing about myself. I am pretty afraid of coming out to new people, especially if they knew me "before". My boyfriend and I went to a market in town last month and a couple of old friends where also hanging out there. Even though I wanted to introduce my partner, I couldn't work up the nerves to do it. I am extremly bothered by that, but at least he has no problem with it.

    On the other hand, I always want to talk about sexuality, especially mine. I will literally think about spouting "I'm gay" in random conversations which is extremly annoying (for me, I never actually do it :icon_wink). As conversation topics go, anything queer is always my goto choice, if I know I can talk about it with other people.

    Is the second thing an overcompensation for the first? It's been less then a year since I've really come out to myself and to other people so I guess I still have a lot of issues to work through. Looking for experiences, especially with the question: "Will this topic ever really be normal for me?"