F-ked up already?

In my personal opinion, the ball is in your court right now. If he took the time to tell you this, then I think he just wants it to slow down. If he didn't really care, I think he'd probably just not respond, at all. But what do I know. Do you guys still talk?

 

Just send him a message and apologize for coming on too strong, and let him know that you'd like to hear from him if he's interested, but you'll leave it up to him.

Then leave it up to him. Just, by letting him know what you are doing, you make it clear that you are still interested and not mad at him. That way, if he's interested, he'll contact you.

 

Well.....I absolutely hate to burst your bubble, BUT...... I think he's probably not going to be that interested. I've done this too many times before - I message too much, the guys back off.....and never message. It is a two way street. You could try and apologize or ask what's going on - but it might not be worth it.

 

dude,

when i get to many texts from the same person.. it becomes too much and i blacklist their number ... hate to break it to ya kid but i think this guy may not reply...

i could be wrong im just talking from my own experiences.

 

Ok - see, this is a great learning opportunity.

That attitude won't get you anywhere.

And wanna know how I know that? Because that was me.

Who am I kidding? I still can do that. Look, I used to get SO ANGRY. HOW THE FUCK could some guy not want to talk to me all the time? I'm amazing - I'm fun! I'm sexy! (So I thought...)

Frankly, I was just lying to myself. Yeah, I am a great person but I was actually being kind of a clingy bore. When I would get these guys to talk, it wasn't very fun.

What you have to do is you have to find your strengths and what you give to a relationship.

Now, I am still single. However, I don't care as much anymore. I don't get so upset. I either just delete the guy and don't worry about him, or I wait for him to come to me. I recently deleted a bunch of guys off my facebook and it actually has helped.

I want you to not make mistakes that I did or that I am sure a lot of people did, ok?

 

i find it funny how ^^^ is giving advice to someone older than them :roflmao:...

"i come in peace"

 

Would you just prefer I didn't say anything? Sorry... I just don't really know what to say to that. Just trying to help.

 

If age always equals wisdom, then I guess I should quit asking my younger sister for advice, considering I should know it all myself. People have different experiences and learn things at different stages in life. There`s nothing funny about someone caring enough to give advice because they want to help. I thought Photoguy`s post was a really good one, so I don`t get the humor here to be honest. But hey, George W. Bush is older than me, so I guess he was right about everything as well. Not to mention he couldn`t possibly have taken advice from someone younger than him :icon_wink

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I agreed with your post. It was a good one, sometimes we really ought to stop and reflect a bit on whether our luck in the love arena can possibly be improved by making some small changes in how we approach it.

(*hug*)

 

Having a relationship won't cure low self-esteem. It will only make you much more vulnerable to dependency and abuse, because you'll believe what you are told about yourself. Work on your sense of self first, relationship after.

...and for the record--clingyness = not attractive. If someone's being too clingy, I'll warn them, and then I'll stop talking to them, because they're both annoying and somewhat creepy.

 

Ah, but then I get it.

This is something that is really common, but also really unhealthy. But I guess you already know that, so it`s probably not something new. I`ll write it anyways though, I am as guilty as any other person of bad habits, and compensating for lack of self-esteem by being in a relationship constantly definitely is in the bad habit category. Because then you never fix the actual problem, you show your dishes under the bed instead. Which leads to a whole new set of issues, like people backing off due to them getting the impression you are a bit clingy.

However, most people have this habit and don`t realize/admit it to themselves, but you do. Which is great, because then you have the awareness it takes to actually work on it. Self esteem is important, some of us seem to have been born with loads of it, some of us have some problems in that area, most of us have at least some confidence issues. But both self-esteem and confidence can be learned and strengthened. And I recommend that, because or else it will sabotage how you create healthy and stable emotional connections to other people. A lot of the relationships out there die because there are issues like co-dependency and insecurity in the picture.

And you deserve a healthy relationship without that (*hug*)

 

gees where's the sense of humor? i only said it coz ive never seen/heard any one take advise from some one younger... thats why i said "i come in peace"

lighten up ... yikes lady no need to be so serious:eusa_naug

 

No, I don't think you fucked up. Maybe you went a little bit overboard. Maybe just text him a little bit less

Edit: bro, I hate to burst your happiness bubble but maybe he isn't interested.