On Saturday, I had an epiphany. After questioning my orientation for a long time, I have come to realise that I'm definitely a lesbian. My certainty however was accompanied by a new problem. My epiphany was due to a combination of two incidents when I was out with my friends at a club in town; one of my friends asked to dance with me and someone I don't know (but he knows me - not as creepy as it sounds. People from school know me cause I've helped out with orientation and other school events but I can't remember everyone…) gave me his number and asked to "hang out" at his place later. I was uninterested in either prospect but the problem is that these both made me uncomfortable, not because I disliked them but because I didn't want things to get to the point that I had to explain I wasn't interested. My main problem solving skill amounts to ignoring the problem until it goes away so… After some intimate dancing I didn't know how to get out of, my friend asked me over to another friends house to continue drinking to which I said I was just gonna walk home and go to bed instead. He was only in town for the weekend. So problem successfully ignored right? And the other guy, I just never texted him Ignored! But I don't really like doing this to people. Especially with the one who's my friend, I wanted to tell the truth and give a real reason as to why I don't want to hang out. I wanted to get out of the dancing before it went to far, instead I lead him on. I could even feel a question being asked as he moved his hands down my back with a slight hesitation and I saw in the flicker of his gaze that he was looking for an answer. I knew this was the perfect moment to let him know of my discomfort by at the very least moving his hands back. Instead I didn't react at all - neither positive or negative. I'm also pretty sure he almost kissed me … twice. In this case I was able to nonchalantly pull him closer so that his head was beside mine instead of his face being right in front of mine but I think this just encouraged him instead… :eek: I'm a very socially awkward kind of person if you can't tell. I'm not exactly sure what kind of advice I expect from EC but perhaps a better way to react in similar situations would be nice.
That's an awkard situation! Sounds like something I'd do... :lol: I have no idea how to reject people LoL
I personally think it's hard to reject people even if you're not interested, simply because for most people, people don't throw themselves at you on a daily basis. So the attention is kinda nice. It's nice to know that people find you attractive, ya know? Sorry the answer isn't helpful in the slightest!
