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Church problems....

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by Ruby, Mar 28, 2013.

  1. Ruby

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    This is like my 3rd thread today but to be fair I've never had anyone I could talk to about this kind of stuff so....

    Ok so here's the thing. My church what you would imagine a small southern church to be like, full of white homophobic, people who wont quit saying the world is ending. I hate going. Easy solution is that I just stop, but the pastor, his wife and kids are family friends. I mean I love them to death but I can't stand some of the things they say.

    Anytime homosexuality/gay rights/anything that isn't guns, Jesus and traditional values is mentioned it's called an "Abomination of God!" and that kind of hurts since I'm liberal, some kind of weird flow-y gender and sexuality. It would probably be healthier for me if I just stopped going but I only ever attend with my family(They have no idea I'm not Right-Wing, Straight and 100% Girl all the time). I love the family and my family I really do I just hate their religion/politics/attitude toward somethings.

    Every time I go I leave feeling tense, twitchy and just drained over all. I don't know how to tell my mom I don't ever want to go back to that church or how to just avoid it all together.
     
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    as a humor aside, is it like those "love the sinner hate the sin", but "love the family hate the religion/politics/opinion"?

    also, you're 19....
    have your family or church family friends talk about how they feel about people who remotely don't believe in the same thing or don't go to church? lol
     
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    Yeah, if your feeling drained when you leave there, then it's probably time to stop going. What I did when I was leaving my old church was I slowly stopped going. I didn't just stop going all at once. Maybe you could have a conversation with your mom about how you feel when you leave?
     
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    Maybe you could look into a more liberal group, such as Unitarian Universalism.
     
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    I've looked into Unitarian Universalism and it's pretty neat but I would probably be better off being spiritual by my self in some corner. Ugh...I just don't know how to tell my mom her religion makes me feel ill.