So I'm taking to this guy on a dating website about kittens and he randomly asks me if I've ever had sex before. I told him I didn't think that was a proper question to ask so randomly. I answered it reluctantly and asked if it was a problem and he said something like "everyone makes mistakes" I was offended that the only way I could have had sex was if it was a mistake. Then like ten minutes later he started talking to me about being bisexual since that's what I listed my sexual orientation as and he asked me if I have ever done anything with a girl and I told him that I didn't want to talk about that. He just kept on and kept on and I got angry and snapped at him. The convo was basically like this: Him:have you ever did nything with a girl? Me:I really dislike questions like this dude you should have learned this. I'm not answering anymore like it. Him:im assuming yes. but i understand you feel unconformable talking about your sexuality. so lets talk about something else. Me:Keep your assumptions to yourself yeah? Him:at lest you have kissed a girl lol HIm:thats probably true and it upset me...do you think I overreacted? I don't know but I don't feel comfortable talking to him anymore but I don't know how to say GO AWAY....
Just to be blunt about what I got from your responses, I do think you sounded a little bitchy. He did say he understood if you found it uncomfortable to talk about, but I guess you had to tell him off?
Yeah I thought I might have over reacted a bit..... :/ I think I made a mistake joining that site. I don't I'm ready to date just yet....*sigh*
I don't see a problem. You told him you weren't comfortable with those questions, and he kept asking. I sometimes ask questions that other people aren't comfortable answering. But if they tell me so, I back off. The one thing is maybe with 'everyone makes mistakes' he might have been referring to his behavior, not yours. Maybe he was trying to do a kind of an apology for asking something you weren't comfortable with?
A dating website? Like.... Actual dating? Or sex? If this is, like, a legit dating site, then I do think it's rude of people to do that. However, it's ONLINE! You have to take that into consideration!
I don't know the way he phrased it and answered my question made it sound like he was claiming any premarital sex I would have would be a mistake...I think that part I was a little too sensitive about. It is as legit a dating website as I think I could find lol and I've made it perfectly clear that I'm not into casual sex.
I would immediately end the conversation and possibly block someone if they did that to me on a dating site. He was being completely disrespectful and sleazy.
he knows that you're uncomfortable about this and yet pushing you and make an assumption lol... gee, can't people be virgin? haha. and there's a dating site for kittens? I'm lost... I didn't know that
lol No I was talking about kittens but it wouldn't surprise me if there were kitten dating sites though...the internet is weird.