Why is it that guys always ask for nudes??? It seems like it doesn't matter if I meet someone on the street, via an app or if I've known them for a while and just recently hooked up with them. It SOOOOOO freaking annoying. I don't even like taking nude pics of myself. Maybe I'm reserved or just plain backwards. There is no telling where a picture will end up after you send it. My trust in people only goes so far. Even if I did completely trust a person, what is the point? It is sad to say, but very true, that a even a kid can go online and get free porn. So why in the world do guys just gotta have dick pics? I've been horny before without the comfort of having someone next to me at the time, but looking at a picture only does so much. WTF??? Really??? Dude! I didn't ask to see your rear. Heck I don't even know you name! Now I admit there have been a couple of times I've seen guys and instead of trying to get to know them I would have liked to bend em over somewhere, but that is rare. Even If that would have happened, I imagine I would still like to get to know them afterwards. I do sometimes like to see nudes after getting to know someone or having sex with them if I am anxious to see them again. Do the vast majority of gay guys just do hook ups and are the nudes a way of getting a sample? What about getting to know someone and dating? Is it normal to send nudes of yourself? Am I just out of touch?
Depends on the dating app. If its ****** then that is probably a good thing they obviously think you are cute. Not ****** then be flattered just say you don't do that kinda thing Edit - sorry mods I meant infamous gay dating/hookup app
Meh, I think it depends on the guy. I'm primarily into faces and fitness: they can give and take if one makes up for the other, but I'm generally more of a face guy. Guys who primarily care for privates are, in my opinion, unlikely to make good dating material but will probably want a hook-up. If they're already sizing you up then they probably aren't interested in getting to know your likes or values. I guess it also depends on what you're looking for though. Some guys only want to hook-up. I've been frustrated by this phenomena too. It seems like the gay scene is too fast and too furious for its own good. Hopefully when public acceptance of LGBT is more mainstream, gays won't be scrambling ****** for their next release. Everyone can chill and take their time getting to know each other in public settings, where it SHOULD be happening. No more of this creepy exchanging of photos in the shadows of the cyperworld. Sorry for the rant, you must have struck a chord haha.
It's all about where you're talking to them. If it's on any of the hookup or dating sites, or typical club or bar, you can pretty much forget it, probably 95% of people aren't interested in much of anything other than sex, even if their profile says otherwise. If you're in a more community/activity/friendship oriented online community, that's a little less likely. And honestly, as soon as anyone asked for anything like that, I'd just be like "See ya." And not give them another second of my time. Anyone where that's their main focus... isn't worth the time of day.
You know, a lot of people might object to me saying this, but I think a part of it might just be biological. Men of all sexualities seem to place a lot more importance on physical features alone compared to women, who seem to have an easier time overlooking them for other qualities. I've lost count how many times I've seen or heard 'hot' or 'hot guy/girl' from another male. Still... it happens, especially with hook up apps and sites, essentially giant meat markets. I know there have been discussions over creating an all-female version of ******, but a lot of women wondered if it would be as successful as the original, and there were concerns over seedy men masquerading as women. I'm also not sure how easily most would be able to separate sex from emotions; I'm trying to picture a female version of the whole 'down-low' phenomena. You just don't hear of these things as much with lesbians. Gay men are thought of as shallow club-goers, bisexual men as promiscuous carriers of HIV, and straight men are commonly referred to as 'dogs' and 'pigs'. Yeah, some is socialization, and I'm sure bigotry plays a part in it, too, but I can't shake the idea that there is are innate differences in how men and women conduct themselves sexually, even if scientifically controversial. Generally speaking, of course.
I think you might just be looking in the wrong places. It doesn't say it in the description, but these apps are for the exchange of nudes to find someone you want to meet with for sex. You need to find an app or website dedicated to romance or the likes, or at least state obviously in your profile that you are NOT interested in exchanging pictures or hookups. The gays that are going to put themselves out on apps and such are likely to be looking for hookups.
I sort of get the nude pic thing if they're into you and all, but I gotta agree with ya. Once you give up a pic of your body then you have no control over what's done with it or where it'll pop up. Plus, the kind of guys who ask to see your dick but don't bother with say, asking for your name, are just creeps trolling for sex. Not that there's anything wrong with a hookup, but I think it's better to bed someone who doesn't look at you like you're just a sex toy.
I'm not surprised. If it's a reputable, decent site, then it's a bit more shocking. However, a gay dating app? Frankly, I really doubt it's just "dating." That's the issue! Also.....do you pay for the app? That can be a big factor.
Best way to get a hookup is to ask for a nude. If someone sends it, it gives the signal the other person good to go. If they ignore it or rip them a new one, they know you can move on to the next person until they get what they want. As other people mentioned, it's really only about the quickest way to find a hookup...
It's the way some are. I get a lot of men who want sex, so what does that tell me they have absolutely no respect for themselves or others. That they are selfishly seeking pleasure with no regard to how they make others feel. Guys are physical beings and visual. For me i need to be attracted to someone and like them as a person develope feelings for them etc.
