I feel so disconnected from everyone else.

I'd say you're focusing too much on what everyone else is doing rather than what you want. It's alright to not know what you wanna do in life, and you shouldn't rush yourself to try to be like the others. Yes, it'd be nice to also feel successful, but it's not something you can expect to happen within a day, you have to make it happen; know what you want and go for it.

Friends aren't friends if they abandon you for a girlfriend, so if they're not thinking about you, why should you worry about what they're doing? But if you were really close, talk to them. It's not a bad idea to be the first to just say, "hey, we haven't talked in a while, what's up?" because they might be worried about not having talked to you either.

You'll be in that position someday; don't rush yourself. In your hurry to try being like all these people, you're not really thinking about you, but the success you want. That's totally fine, but don't make that your priority, and just go for things that you know will make you happy; that's true success.

 

Everything you're describing is totally natural. It's very common to feel down because you're the only single one, or you're the only one without a career, or whatever.

But, let's assume you're right. If you are, in fact, the only one, that could be a bummer...or it could be a lot of fun. You're the only one who gets to be single and "on the prowl" - everyone could go out and try to meet people for you to talk to. You're the only one who can get people into a "does he or doesn't he" discussion while you're all hanging out at night anymore. You're the only one who can tell people about the new idea you had about a place to look for a job, or take a new class, or get a new certification for something.

I spent three years as the only single person in a group of 7 friends - myself and three married couples. And I often got the feeling that they were bored when I wasn't around - nobody else was there to talk about the dating scene or what have you.

And when you finally do meet someone - you're going to have a lot of friends who will be really excited for you, cause they haven't seen a new relationship in ages.

Give them a call and see if they want to do something some night soon. Even if you have to plan a night or two in advance, it could still be fun. Maybe they could use someone to break their routine.

 

Nearly everyone feels this way at some time. It is FALSE! As Americans these days, we are told it's your way right away! With i phones, self help, i force V-8s, and all the other trends about "me' and instant gradification. This is all false thinking. Don't worry so much or focus on yourself and you will get all you need in life with time. Good luck! June