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Does anyone else here ever feel this way?

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by yellowsun, May 21, 2013.

  1. yellowsun

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    For any of you here who are exclusively homosexual, do you ever feel like it affects your entire life? I feel like it affects any friendships I make, my future, etc. I hate being a lesbian. I really despise it. It affects everything I do and everything I am.
     
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    I did feel that way when I first accepted my gayness, but those feelings changed over time and I grew to like being gay and now I love it.

    I realized that I it was self-defeating to keep coming down on myself and nothing that was ordinary was every interesting.
     
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    No, it's just a part of my life. It played a bigger role when I was newly out, but that's just because it was a new and fun thing and on my mind a good bit. But even then I had other things to do and think about.

    Todd
     
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    Pretty much took the words out of my mouth. :slight_smile:
     
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    It will never matter whether someone accepts their homosexuality fully or not, because the process of coming out lasts a life time. It will always affect your life in the sense that you have to pick and choose your friends wisely; you have to have discretion when revealing information to your employer(s); you have to worry about your safety in public and where it is/isn't okay to hold hands in public or be affectionate; you have to be prepared for mean and nasty things being said to you because of your sexuality; you need to deal with idiot politicians who make your life more difficult... and the list goes on.

    With that being said, I'm not trying to complain about being a homosexual. I fully accept and love myself for who I am. I wouldn't choose to be straight now, because my experience as a homosexual is special. I'm just saying that being a homosexual will always affect my life in some form, both positively and negatively.

    For most people I imagine it will be like this.
     
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    Maybe not my entire life but some parts. I'm going into elementary teaching and i'm really unsure how being gay will affect it. I'm in a pretty liberal part of st. Louis so my gut tells me not much. As far as relationships, being gay does get to me. I really have nothing in common with girls so most of my friends are guys. I feel if I tell people that I'm gay things will start to get awkward and they will think I am always trying to take our friendship to the next level. Luckily it hasn't happened yet. I'm slowly learning to accept myself.
     
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    It does, but not in a bad way. It's influenced my personality, made me more aware, I think I'm kinder because of it. It's changed me in so many ways, but honestly, I've come to realise many of those things are for the better, so I have NO problems with it :slight_smile:.