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Would you think I was a lesbian just based on this?

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by yellowsun, May 22, 2013.

  1. yellowsun

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    Ever since I can remember, most of my favorite people have been females whether it be teachers or famous people. Although I have admired some guys. My sister was quick to label me as a lesbian just because I have always talked about women more than I have men. Would you think I was a lesbian just based on that?
     
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    No, I wouldn't. I used to always talk to guys, yet I'm not straight. I know mostly talk to girls--the tomboy ones-- and I'm not lesbian either. So, no.
     
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    Honestly if all I had to go on happened to be the information you've just provided I wouldn't make any sort of assumptions regarding your sexuality, and I certainly wouldn't immediately feel inclined to think of you as a lesbian. A friend who is, as far as I know, very happily married has never talked about men to any great extent and went to great lengths to segregate herself from non-related men outside of work and church. She did so purely because she could relate to female figures far more than male ones, and found no joy in socialising with men on a recreational basis (outside of her husband, but he really had his work cut out convincing her he wasn't after a summer fling). So again, based on my personal experience of other people I would not use any of the information you have provided as an indication that you were a lesbian.

    The views of others will probably vary from my own.
     
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    Not at all! Honestly, it sounds pretty normal. I'm gay and all my friends are women. I think that if it's flipped, it's a bit more suspect....but Thats just me!
     
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    if I knew you and only talked about admiring women and never talked about men I might assume you where gay or question your sexuality , but it really depends what your saying about these women if your talking as if you want to be them then no I wouldn't assume you where gay because that's to do with clothe, there lifestyle who they are and it would be more having someone to look up to or jealously , but if you where talking as if you think there hot or you want a relationship then id assume you where atleast bisexual. It shouldn't matter so much what others think though if you know in our heart that you want a relationship with women and not men than your probably a lesbian but if you think about men romantically then your not
     
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    I would say that if you never mention men people will wonder. I make a conscious effort to mention men every now and again because I heard someone wonder about a female colleague's sexuality since "she never mentions men in any of her conversations. She's not married. I wonder if she is a lesbian." I can't even begin to tell you how many times I have heard variations of this topic.

    Throw a guy's name into a conversation every now and again and people create their own stories. I was meeting someone for dinner after work one day and just for the hell of it, when I was leaving and running late, I said, "Oh no I'm late. I better give him a call and let him know." That was all that I said. The next day I was asked about my date, my bf, etc...

    Too funny.
     
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    No cause i'm the same way and nobody knows i might be lesbian unless i told them.although when i was 14 i had an anime poster of girls in bikinis and my older brother joked around that i was lesbian.
     
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    With the limited info provided I would have no way to predict your orientation.
    I suppose it depends what kind of references you made to those women you admired (Maya Anjelou is such an inspiring writer vs (name of actress) looked soo hot in that movie).
    I suspect your sister (younger perhaps) just heard the word lesbian without much of an extended definition and is using it out of context for entertainment or shock value.