hello EC. I dont know if i can post this here but anyways: I feel very lost and I have had that feeling for some years now, Im 16 and i started feeling this when i was about ~13 years old, u knwo when you start thinking of life in a different way etc. When u realize life isnt that perfect as u always have thought. maybe I just have to get to know myself better..but how? Im a very shy person and I rarely let people into my life, idk why (i dont want it to be that way but thats how it is :/ ), I have a few "near" friends, and I have no problem talking and having fun with them. I feel like a have no social skills at all. i want to meet new ppl, get new friends etc but i cant because i never know what to say to anyone and that makes me so stressed out i also have a big problem with my personal style - cloths and so on. I wear teh same cloths all the time because when i shop i never find something I like...i guess...but that may also have to do with the confidence? I wonder if you could give me some advice for a better confidence? this post went pretty fuzzy, but I hope u get what i mean
I don't have advice really. But I'm in the same boat as you I'd that makes you feel any better. When I talk to new people most of the time I think I come off as really boring and/or disconnected. I think it has a lot to do with self confidence though because I know men is pretty low. Hope I helped a bit.
Wish I could help, but I have the same problem. :dry: I've never been able to walk up to someone I don't know and initiate a conversation - and on the rare occasion that someone decides to try to talk to me, either I sit there forever trying to find something to say, or I say something stupid and scare them off. :bang:
I'm the same, I'm shy so I never start talking to people I don't know. I would like to but i've always been shy, I think I lack social skills
Hmmm Some of stuff you said in your post sounds similar to how I was a few months ago and still am in a few ways. I lack social skills and really can't find anything to say sometimes which does stress me out. I think the first thing to do would be to focus on you. Set some small goals if you want to boost your confidence. Like say "Hi" to at least three people one day or something along those lines and then build it up as you go along. Keep a record of it and write everything down. It gives you a boost when you write all the positive you've done. If you've had a crappy day, felt bad or whatever then write it down, tear it out and put it in the bin... Start again the next day. Treat yourself or pamper yourself. I'm not saying go and get a facial but just treat yourself now again and focus on you. Confidence and self esteem and self worth all connect and once one gets going, the rest will follow. For example I used think " I must talk to everyone at work and make friends and say hello" that it was stressing me out because I everyday I would try and fail. Then I decided to zone in on a few people that I actually liked talking to, that could find common ground with and stick with them. I hope this helps. I tried to get some points over but I think I got a bit muddled. Hope it makes some sort of sense and you can message me if you want to chat. Being shy, lack of confidence and not sure what to say to new people is something I know a lot about and still cope with
Usually the issue isn't lack of social skills. Usually the issue is being able to socialise while being sacred. It's difficult to socialise with adreline going though your vains sort out the fear and the "social skills" will come with it.
