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Swinging both ways as a mostly gay person?

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by vhrebels, May 31, 2013.

  1. vhrebels

    vhrebels Guest

    Hey. So, I'm going to start off by saying that I will be going into senior year in high school soon, which means the year after that I will be going into college. I believe that I am mostly gay like around a kinsey 4.5 or 5, and although I'm not really that into girls, I feel like I should do a little "exploring", before I come out, just to make sure that this isn't a phase. The only problem with this is that I am a devout Christian, and I don't believe that God really wants me to go around banging people left and right. So, what should I do? Honestly, I really don't want to have sex with girls, but I feel like I could be attracted to them, if that makes any sense. Like, I can think a girl is hot and it can sort of turn me on, but the thought of having sex with one is a serious turn off for me. But I definitely would thoroughly enjoy engaging in some activity with guys, and they really turn me on. In other words, I want to have sex with guys and I'm attracted to them, but I really don't want to have sex with girls, but they can be hot sometimes. Does this mean I'm bisexual? And how can I find out for sure without having sex? I just really don't want to compromise my religious and moral beliefs in engaging in rampant sexual behavior.
     
  2. IanGallagher

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    All guys who like girls in that way want to have sex with them the instant we see them. Okay, maybe not instant - but the reaction you're having to guys sexually? If you were bi, you'd be having that same reaction to girls. You wouldn't get turned off by it.
     
  3. cm81990

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    You could be confusing aesthetic attraction with sexual attraction. There is absolutely nothing wrong with experimenting (as long as you are NOT in a relationship with someone). However, only experiment because YOU want to, not because others are pressuring.