Quick Question

I mean, People can use it in a insulting way.
its just saying your feminine

I feel like if someone says that, that its pointless because regardless of whether your as people would say "butch" lesbian ....or "lipstick" lesbian.....

there is no one or the other....

a lesbian is a lesbian regardless of whether of they are feminine or more masculine.
I think, its not insulting...I just think, its stupid

and creates more stereotypes

in the end. It shouldn't even matter but if someone wants to say they are a liptick lesbian or a butch lesbian then that's fine but personally, the whole thing is not necessary

 

It all depends on the person, some people find the word Queer offensive & some people don't

 

Generally, no. Many, many individuals proudly refer to themselves as lipstick lesbians, and some have gone on to form groups that actively try to erase the sometimes stubborn notion certain individuals have regarding the invalidity of lipstick lesbians.

People do use it in a derogatory fashion, but even so if you cast your eye around people refer to themselves as dykes, queers, and a variety of other terms which have perhaps a much more identifiable link to being used as insults than the term lipstick lesbian, yet people identify with those terms quite proudly. So I'd personally say that if it's a term you identify with, then use it with pride.

 

Pretty much this. If you feel it describes you well, then use it. But I wouldn't use it for someone else unless you know they wouldn't get offended by it, but to me it's harmless enough.