Intense fear of meeting people face-to-face you met online?

Well the likelihood that you'll be meeting with a serial killer is probably pretty low, so that wouldn't be the first thing I'd worry about. However, there is always some risk associated with the unknown, so I'd be careful about who you meet and where, especially. It may not always be a "dangerous" situation, but it's not always a good idea either.

3 months isn't that long. Unless you've talked to him over the phone and/or seen real pictures of him that allows you to verify his identity, I wouldn't jump into a face-to-face meeting. If you do decide to do it, I'd say a hotel room is not a good place to meet or to end up at after a meeting. Go to a public place where there are lots of people around so that you can make sure you won't be in any kind of danger by being isolated.

I don't have any experience with this sort of thing, but this is just how I feel is the best way to go about these situations.

 

A hotelroom cause you need to get up early? You actually plan on sleeping there?
Why can´t you just meet over dinner, or better even, lunch. In a public place.
Call it off.
One little thing in your drink and you´ll be helpless. Even with your martial art training.
Brought weapons can be used against you. Don´t do that.
But basicly: Don´t enter a room with him.

You sort of make it clear that it is important that you can get up early next morning.
That just doesn´t go with "hotelroom meeting" that usually ends in long nights...

 

Meet him. But find another place to stay.

Lex

 

No there is nothing wrong with you.
These kind of meetings can go wrong, so one should always be cautious.

(Says someone who saw a guy and ended in his hotelroom minutes later, but hey, my parents were staying in the same hotel and gave me the green light...I´m still with him.)

 

Hi Teluphone,

I used to be quite an introverted person however you will be surprised how in time things will change.

Arranging to meet somebody you've met on an app is quite dangerous however I would do it in a public place where there are always be people around if you need support. Yes there are some strange people out there, however there are a lot of genuine people out there too and you shouldn't let this put you off. Perhaps arrange to Skype with this person and I would definitely talk to them more before meeting them. Sadly in the gay world there is a tendency to rush into sex and I wouldn't let your feelings of not being out cloud your judgement. Let me know how it goes I wish you all the best x