Things you were afraid to do (before you came out) for fear of 'looking gay'?

Well I was too afraid to admit that I actually love clothes shopping and looking at clothes and tried to reject that. That and I quite like a musical (even just songs from musicals and listening to them).

Oh and gay porn ^_^

 

It's funny, for me I have no problem dressing the way I like, which is not all to feminine. But if you ask me if I like girls I'd deny it. I find it easier to let my clothes speak for themselves instead of me having to say to people "Yep, I'm gay."

 

Get a manicure.
Say that I love shopping.
Watch Sex & The City openly
Watch figure skating and like it.
flip through beefcake calendars

---------- Post added 30th Jun 2013 at 02:42 PM ----------

Yes, it's much nicer being out of that old scary closet.

 

Things I was afraid to do? Honestly?

Touch girls. In any way. Even as friends. Everytime I even thought about it, I would be thinking "better not do that, or people will think I'm gay".

I'm totally different now. I actually consciously shut down those thoughts and made myself not pull away from touch. Now, not only do I touch girls, I enjoy the feeling and it has helped me accept myself, even if I haven't come out to any friends yet.

 

I am the same way (but with boys of course!)

 

I used to be afraid to listen to some music because my brothers had told me the music sucked. I've always been this way twisting myself in order to please others. I've gotten better at being myself and admitting to myself that I like things that are considered gay. But I'm still not there yet.

One thing I've started finding bravery for is standing up for my political believes against my brothers opinions. It feels great

 

Coming out to myself certainly helped in removing mental barriers, for sure...

Since accepting myself I think I've grown much more comfortable looking for clothing and caring for appearance.

Most importantly, ever since I accepted myself I got a boyfriend so obviously now I feel much more comfortable being close to another man.

Really at this point I don't care what people think is "gay" or not. If they want to confront me, I'll be upfront with them about it. I'm not really "in your face" about it and I still do many things which can be construed as "masculine". But I think relying on gender stereotypes does more harm than good for a lot of people, and I wish society would just move on already.

 

Wearing loud clothing, walking into a sex shop's, being seen around gay people, oh the list goes on...

 

- Being able to go on a date anywhere in public with Sebastian and not caring how obvious it is that we're a gay couple
- Feeling no shame when staring at a hot guy on the cover of a magazine at the supermarket
- Occasionally using the word "fabulous"
- Carrying a compact with me so I can fix my makeup when necessary (yes, I wear male makeup, keeps my skin nice)
- Giving people fashion advice
- Basically anything stereotypically "gay"

 

I tried very hard not to blast this at the loudest setting possible on my iPod:

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Really, I kept my pop music under wraps and didn't let a single person know what I liked outside of my family who knew that Hilary Duff/Aly & AJ were my jam at the time... After that phase, I didn't let anybody know what sort of music I loved.

 

Telling people I listened to female singers - Rihanna mainly, she's my most-played artist by far.
I would always hold back a bit while clubbing, in terms of dancing. If I go clubbing now, I go all out (even though the way I dance is hardly gay at all).
I'd tell nobody about my interest in singing, whereas noawadays most people are aware that I like to.

 

Well, just recently like a few months ago I came out, (Feburary) and since then I was confortable with Shaving my legs... I have more shit to type but at the moment I'm too lazy. I'll edit this later..

 

Dress in skinny pants, wear guy's eyeliner

 

Dress nicely and spend more than 10 seconds on my hair. And playing with my girlfriends' hair. I love playing with hair, especially red hair. That is my biggest gay stereotype.

 

After coming into myself I have had a lot less angst about seeing girls in bathing suits or not necessarily "skimpy" but more revealing clothes. May sound weird, but before if a girl was wearing something like that I felt really awkward and weird talking/looking at them.

I also have no problem admiting to myself I find a girl attractive. Before if my friends were commenting on how pretty a girl was I was like "um, I don't know, sure?" Because I thought it was weird for another girl to find a girl attractive. Now I just say to my self "oooo, they are pretty good looking!"

I think my feelings came from denial more than wanting people to think i was straight

 

Um I guess I was afraid to dress like a boy because I was alot self-conscious after the incident in sixth grade. Two girls walked up to me and asked, "are u a boy?" The other girl said, "oh s***, shes wearing earrings" and said "sorry" and walked away. But nowadays I dont give a crap and do whatever I want and wear what I prefer.

 

Just looking at guys. I was terrified someone would see me checking a guy out...over that now though