Dreaming about men, but I'm a lesbian

Well I have no advice but for some reason I have more dreams about men than I do women (sexually) ...I mean, I dont know what to make of it.

I've had a dream of having oral sex with this guy and this other guy trying to have sex with me....I can't recall if i liked it or not but I know i find it disgusting in real life. This is another reason why i questioned my sexuality

I guess, you and me are kind of in the same position

 

When it comes to dreams, just ignore them. They don't mean anything and what your mind does when you are unconscious doesn't matter. If you have no attraction to men when you are awake, having a dream about one when you are asleep shouldn't make you suddenly question everything.

 

I've never had sex with a guy and Many girls say, "You won't know unless you try"
But i mean, I dont find the idea of a penis into my vagina pleasurable at all. Sometimes i wonder if I ever did try, maybe i would like it but I dont want to try. Especially not at this age. I'm not that stupid.

And your welcome...and it is frustrating....The only time, i ever had sexual contact with a guy was when I was 12 and We had oral sex and The only part I liked was when he went down on me. I dont know if that means anything though.....

I'm battling the acceptance phase now....I still question time to time though as you can tell.

Hopefully, these dreams won't mean much so it can lift some bricks off your shoulders

 

I've had "straight dreams". It's probably normal.

 

I've had plenty of dreams about girls.

I think when I have dreams that have a deep meaning, I "notice" that they were meaningful when I wake up. All other dreams I dont really read into at all.

 

What was the situation?
What was the men's apparent orientation?
Did it feel like an important dream or a random one?
How were you acting/them acting?
Did you know them at all from somewhere?

I'm not sure if you saw in the dreams thread but I recently had a dream, right at the time when I realised I wasn't straight, or curious, or even bi... I was gay. (I still question it sometimes too/am afraid to commit in case my mind changes.. I'm pretty sure it isnt going to though, I think it might be some well disguised subconscious denial)

Anyhow, so I'm with a lesbian friend of mine. she looks quite boyish. We're laughing/joking in a cynical way as we do, then she jumps at me playfully, we fall on a pile of cushions/pillows in this room, and tumble.. ending up her on her back, me on top of her, in each others arms, and kiss.

I didn't interpret this as me wanting to be with her despite her being a lesbian, because it didn't feel that way at all. I interpreted it as general confusion about sexuality.

Then I realised she was probably just a representation of the idea of 'gay' in my head - her being pretty much the only gay person I've ever known. and also looking a way that if she didnt have boobs/was basically a guy version of herself, I'd be massively attracted to her.

THEN I realise that we had actually just action-for-action played out a guy-on-guy gay scene from a TV show I had seen.. and well, I didn't need an expert to analyse that, what with the way I'd been feeling for the previous months.

Anyway what I'm trying to get at , is maybe they dont represent straight up woman-man relations/sexual attraction. Maybe they're representative of something more general, or something more specific to the context of the dream.

 

Most of the time dreams are like metaphors, so dont take them literaly. We could say they have their own properties and their own logic, a dream is like a mini universe with its own rules.

Example: i love my parents yet i have dreamed twice about killing my father and the first time it was kind of bloody.

 

Bi curious?

 

No problem. I love dreams!

Also I would say don't bother with the dream dictionary... I'm sure some of it is vaguely accurate, but...

Dreams are concocted by your own brain, so your own brain is what you need to translate them! Just think about what you see in the dream, what metaphors you see, then try to relate it to things that are/have been part of your life.

 

Hey it happens. I used to only have sex dreams about men although I'm pretty much a Kinsey 6. But I rarely have sex dreams. And I'm proud to say, the last few all involved women and they were fucking amazing.

I think it has to do with socialization. We are socialized to be heterosexual so it may be the norm for us to have dreams like that initially.

 

Hi~

Believe it or not, this is quite common. There are gay men who dream about kissing women, lesbians who dream about kissing guys and straight people who dream about kissing the same sex. Dreams don't dictate your sexual orientation. Trust me, there are plenty of straight guys who had a dream about a guy once, freak out and then have to have people tell him that it doesn't mean he's gay. -_-

However, it can help you to realize your sexual orientation. I had like 12 lesbian dream before I realized that I was bi. But it wasn't just the dreams that lead me to realize though, it was also my conscious thoughts.

 

You just answered your own question. Don't date men because you clearly don't like them like that. I guess, just view the dream as just a dream.

 

I had a sex dream with a guy last night and im in a committed relationship with my girlfriend.. I think its normal, nbd I really wouldn't worry about it unless there is some deeper feeling you're having for a guy or something.. if not I really wouldn't pay much mind to it!