When'd you lose it? (Virginity) - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

Lucas16 · 9th Jul 2011, 11:55 AM

Well, i was bored and wanted to make a thread coexisting with the: "Are you a virgin?" thread as well, but this just asks when have you lost it, IF AT ALL. If not, say how old you are, and obviously that you haven't.

Me: 16, and have not.

TheWanderer · 9th Jul 2011, 12:00 PM

With a women- 16
With a man- 22

Lucas16 · 9th Jul 2011, 12:04 PM

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Originally Posted by TheWanderer

With a women- 16
With a man- 22

So im assuming you finally found you were gay after 16? :P

TheWanderer · 9th Jul 2011, 12:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Lucas16

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Originally Posted by TheWanderer

With a women- 16
With a man- 22

So im assuming you finally found you were gay after 16? :P

there was a really awkward period of about 6 years where I didnt know what was going on.... I could actually say 8 years due to the fact that Im only recently comfortable with everything.

Lucas16 · 9th Jul 2011, 12:09 PM

Oh wow.. that's crazy, but at least you have it figured out.

fiddledeedee · 9th Jul 2011, 12:54 PM

I was sexually abused by my older brother when I was six; he did not penetrate me but used his mouth, hands and penis on/with me. Argh, I don't know how to phrase any of this. I call myself a virgin as I have never intentionally had sex.

BenIsScared · 9th Jul 2011, 01:09 PM

I'm 17 and have done everything except going all the way with a boy. I've only kissed a girl.

Lucas16 · 9th Jul 2011, 01:35 PM

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Originally Posted by fiddledeedee

I was sexually abused by my older brother when I was six; he did not penetrate me but used his mouth, hands and penis on/with me. Argh, I don't know how to phrase any of this. I call myself a virgin as I have never intentionally had sex.

That is very bad.. and how old was he? Why was it allowed? and did he ever get busted for doing it? That is disturbing... wow.

---------- Post added 9th Jul 2011 at 01:36 PM ----------

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Originally Posted by BenIsScared

I'm 17 and have done everything except going all the way with a boy. I've only kissed a girl.

Haha i'm sorta on that side too, but less on both parts.. never even touched a girl here, LOL. (in that way.. or kissing)

fiddledeedee · 9th Jul 2011, 01:53 PM

Lucas: my brother was 13, my parents never knew, and I am fine now. I don't want to tell anyone in real life as he might be prosecuted, and I have forgiven him and do not think he will do it to other girls/boys (he involved my other brother, aged 9, once or twice). I do wonder if what he did has contributed to me preferring girls to boys sexually, and I am a little angry (not the right word, but do not know what is) wiht him as it might have scarred me emotionally. As it is, the only time I have seriously considered running away was last year due to a variety of things like my parent's divorce but not anything to do with the abuse, or even my sexuality.

But let's not get off-topic.

Random Dent · 9th Jul 2011, 02:04 PM

I was 20 the first time I had sex with a man.

Still haven't slept with a woman.

@Fiddle: I'm sorry you had to go through that.

Just Passing · 9th Jul 2011, 02:26 PM

I haven't had sex with anyone and am unlikely to have that experience for a while yet.

That being said, I have kissed a guy and a girl, but this was when I was twelve and inexperienced, so I'm not sure if they really count. I clearly enjoyed the guy kiss more.

2ugly2bgay2011 · 9th Jul 2011, 02:40 PM

22 but if I had thought that meant men were attracted to me I was soon proven mistaken. My role has been that of the very ugly straight women i.e. a stand-in when someone is desperate. I have never been with a woman.

blikeo · 9th Jul 2011, 06:52 PM

lost oral virginity for both at 15
never done anything else

thedreamwatch · 9th Jul 2011, 06:59 PM

With a girl: 14
With a guy: 15 or 17 depending on how you count virginity

Steve712 · 9th Jul 2011, 07:32 PM

At sixteen ... around nine months ago.

EWU2012 · 10th Jul 2011, 11:33 AM

I guess I will say 21. It was actually just on friday night. We did everything except for actual sex and it's weird but we also never kissed. haha I know some people only consider penetration as sex and not being a virgin anymore but I think that any sexual contact with emotions involved allows for one to not consider themselves a virgin. With that said it was amazing!!

ijustdontknow90 · 10th Jul 2011, 03:34 PM

With a guy, I haven't done anything yet.

With a girl, does oral sex count? If so, I was 20.

flymetothemoon · 10th Jul 2011, 07:31 PM

Guy: 19
Girl: 23

CluelessMe · 10th Jul 2011, 11:03 PM

I'm 17 I've kissed several girls never kissed a guy but I really want to and I'm a virgin

Revan · 10th Jul 2011, 11:23 PM

Girl: furthest I went was a b/j, and that was at 16.
Guy: Well it's complicated. My first real penetration was from my step-brother, I let him but I was 10, him 16 at the time, so I didn't know what he was doing was wrong. He didn't really go in at all really, like it hurt so much and was using soap as lube so yeah >_> I don't blame him...he was possibly curious, and I mean I think everyone knew I was/would figure out I was gay from day one. My first b/j was from a friend who still claims to be straight despite him always giving me one but not the other way around :S. And first real anal was at 17 with a black guy who lied about his age, said he was 27, turns out he was like 40 (found out from a friend who was oddly dating him at the time). He tricked me (at 17 i was really immature, mindset almost of a 14 yr old at times) and said when I got to university, guys would use me and toss me aside if I had my virginity so he took it...worst mistake ever, I wish I hadn't lost it to him...but I mean I'm still healthy I just hate that I gave that to him....so yeah....really interesting experiences with guys I've had >_<

9th Jul 2011, 11:55 AM	#1
Lucas16 One Step At A Time :) Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Mom/Dad/Grandma, and my Gay/bi friends Location: Bay Area, CA Posts: 55 Join Date: Jul 2011	When'd you lose it? (Virginity) Well, i was bored and wanted to make a thread coexisting with the: "Are you a virgin?" thread as well, but this just asks when have you lost it, IF AT ALL. If not, say how old you are, and obviously that you haven't. Me: 16, and have not.

9th Jul 2011, 12:00 PM	#2
TheWanderer Pork Lover of EC Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: few friends, cousin, co-workers Location: massachusetts Age: 25 Posts: 335 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: When'd you lose it? (Virginity) With a women- 16 With a man- 22 __________________ “Not all those who wander are lost.” - J.R.R Tolkien

9th Jul 2011, 12:09 PM	#5
Lucas16 One Step At A Time :) Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Mom/Dad/Grandma, and my Gay/bi friends Location: Bay Area, CA Posts: 55 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: When'd you lose it? (Virginity) Oh wow.. that's crazy, but at least you have it figured out.

9th Jul 2011, 12:54 PM	#6
fiddledeedee 22/12-31/12+X! Full Member Gender: Complicated female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Most, sans Dad Location: England Age: 15 Posts: 1,128 Join Date: May 2011	Re: When'd you lose it? (Virginity) I was sexually abused by my older brother when I was six; he did not penetrate me but used his mouth, hands and penis on/with me. Argh, I don't know how to phrase any of this. I call myself a virgin as I have never intentionally had sex. __________________ A problem should be measured not by the cause of the problem but by the consequences it has on a person. ~ Anfauglith

9th Jul 2011, 01:09 PM	#7
BenIsScared Member Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not totally sure....But about 90% sure I'm gay. Out Status: 5 really close friends, and one douchebag Location: Southern USA Posts: 74 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: When'd you lose it? (Virginity) I'm 17 and have done everything except going all the way with a boy. I've only kissed a girl.

9th Jul 2011, 01:53 PM	#9
fiddledeedee 22/12-31/12+X! Full Member Gender: Complicated female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Most, sans Dad Location: England Age: 15 Posts: 1,128 Join Date: May 2011	Re: When'd you lose it? (Virginity) Lucas: my brother was 13, my parents never knew, and I am fine now. I don't want to tell anyone in real life as he might be prosecuted, and I have forgiven him and do not think he will do it to other girls/boys (he involved my other brother, aged 9, once or twice). I do wonder if what he did has contributed to me preferring girls to boys sexually, and I am a little angry (not the right word, but do not know what is) wiht him as it might have scarred me emotionally. As it is, the only time I have seriously considered running away was last year due to a variety of things like my parent's divorce but not anything to do with the abuse, or even my sexuality. But let's not get off-topic. __________________ A problem should be measured not by the cause of the problem but by the consequences it has on a person. ~ Anfauglith

9th Jul 2011, 02:04 PM	#10
Random Dent Liebe ist für alle da! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: La la la ladies Out Status: I don't care who knows Location: California Age: 27 Posts: 1,692 Join Date: Feb 2011	Re: When'd you lose it? (Virginity) I was 20 the first time I had sex with a man. Still haven't slept with a woman. @Fiddle: I'm sorry you had to go through that. __________________ No government has the right to tell its citizens when or whom to love. The only queer people are those who don't love anybody Rita Mae Brown

9th Jul 2011, 02:26 PM	#11
Just Passing EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Almost there Location: West Midlands Age: 20 Posts: 513 Join Date: May 2011	Re: When'd you lose it? (Virginity) I haven't had sex with anyone and am unlikely to have that experience for a while yet. That being said, I have kissed a guy and a girl, but this was when I was twelve and inexperienced, so I'm not sure if they really count. I clearly enjoyed the guy kiss more. __________________ Meh.

9th Jul 2011, 02:40 PM	#12
2ugly2bgay2011 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Dublin, Ireland Age: 32 Posts: 12 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: When'd you lose it? (Virginity) 22 but if I had thought that meant men were attracted to me I was soon proven mistaken. My role has been that of the very ugly straight women i.e. a stand-in when someone is desperate. I have never been with a woman. Last edited by 2ugly2bgay2011; 9th Jul 2011 at 02:44 PM..

9th Jul 2011, 06:52 PM	#13
blikeo Well Known Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: My Parents and My Brother Location: Raleigh,NC Age: 17 Posts: 165 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: When'd you lose it? (Virginity) lost oral virginity for both at 15 never done anything else

9th Jul 2011, 06:59 PM	#14
thedreamwatch Maximum Ridiculosity Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Kinsey 5. So, pretty gay. Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Wisconsin Age: 22 Posts: 1,275 Join Date: Jan 2011	Re: When'd you lose it? (Virginity) With a girl: 14 With a guy: 15 or 17 depending on how you count virginity __________________ "I came out laughing, I came out screaming, I came out dancing..." - T&S

9th Jul 2011, 07:32 PM	#15
Steve712 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Mostly out. Location: New Brunswick, Canada Age: 17 Posts: 1,294 Join Date: Feb 2010	Re: When'd you lose it? (Virginity) At sixteen ... around nine months ago. __________________ "Yet if hope has flown away / In a night, or in a day, In a vision, or in none, / Is it therefore the less gone?" - Poe

10th Jul 2011, 11:33 AM	#16
EWU2012 What is love? Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Cheney, Washington Age: 22 Posts: 193 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: When'd you lose it? (Virginity) I guess I will say 21. It was actually just on friday night. We did everything except for actual sex and it's weird but we also never kissed. haha I know some people only consider penetration as sex and not being a virgin anymore but I think that any sexual contact with emotions involved allows for one to not consider themselves a virgin. With that said it was amazing!! __________________ Eastern Washington University is the 2011 NCAA Division I FCS National Champions!!!

10th Jul 2011, 03:34 PM	#17
ijustdontknow90 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not sure (still trying to figure it out) Posts: 43 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: When'd you lose it? (Virginity) With a guy, I haven't done anything yet. With a girl, does oral sex count? If so, I was 20.

10th Jul 2011, 07:31 PM	#18
flymetothemoon EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: It's not about gender, I just like people... Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Albany, NY Age: 25 Posts: 467 Join Date: Nov 2009	Re: When'd you lose it? (Virginity) Guy: 19 Girl: 23 __________________ Somehow I can't believe that there are any heights that can't be scaled by a man who knows the secrets of making dreams come true...curiosity, confidence, courage, and constancy. ~ Walt Disney

10th Jul 2011, 11:03 PM	#19
CluelessMe Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not sure (still trying to figure it out) Out Status: My dad Knows a few other people Location: arizona Age: 18 Posts: 32 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: When'd you lose it? (Virginity) I'm 17 I've kissed several girls never kissed a guy but I really want to and I'm a virgin

10th Jul 2011, 11:23 PM	#20
Revan EC Addict Full Member Gender: M for MEEP! Orientation: Mutant and Proud Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Windsor, Ontario Age: 24 Posts: 6,567 Join Date: Jun 2005	Re: When'd you lose it? (Virginity) Girl: furthest I went was a b/j, and that was at 16. Guy: Well it's complicated. My first real penetration was from my step-brother, I let him but I was 10, him 16 at the time, so I didn't know what he was doing was wrong. He didn't really go in at all really, like it hurt so much and was using soap as lube so yeah >_> I don't blame him...he was possibly curious, and I mean I think everyone knew I was/would figure out I was gay from day one. My first b/j was from a friend who still claims to be straight despite him always giving me one but not the other way around :S. And first real anal was at 17 with a black guy who lied about his age, said he was 27, turns out he was like 40 (found out from a friend who was oddly dating him at the time). He tricked me (at 17 i was really immature, mindset almost of a 14 yr old at times) and said when I got to university, guys would use me and toss me aside if I had my virginity so he took it...worst mistake ever, I wish I hadn't lost it to him...but I mean I'm still healthy I just hate that I gave that to him....so yeah....really interesting experiences with guys I've had >_< __________________ "Is there some reason my coffee isn't here? Has she died or something?" - Miranda Priestly. Strength is not defined by physical capacity, but by indomitable will. ~ Mahatma Gandhi Procrastination is like masturbation, in the end you just wind up screwing yourself.

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