STOP masturbating

[BushHippie]

What do you all think about this? I stopped not for religious reasons, but I'm curious to see how effective holding it in really is.

Went from at least once a day, to 4 times a week, to once a week, and now I will make it a point to just not do it at all. For one it was taking up too much time, and when I thought about it it just seemed a little odd to set up periods of isolation for what I wanted to be a social activity .

Now some of these guys are a little weird and expect themselves to become super human, or expect abstaining to completely hold their hand and change their mental outlook for them, but overall there seems to be some common benefits that many people report. And I always noticed feeling more like an Earth child when due to no privacy I HAD to abstain for at least a week.

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It's interesting at least, and something I am trying out. If anything at least I'm putting those 1-3 hours (savored it rather than rushing) towards better things.

[Lexington]

I consider enjoying my own company to be a very good use of my time, myself.

Lex

[BushHippie]

Well you're older! I'm betting that you're already pretty well established and aren't anxiously trying to establish a better career/network/friend circle/sex life like us younger guys.

Wank away!

[Kerze]

I find it funny that two of the top stories on the front page are

STOP masturbating
Masturbating

That is all

[NoName114]

Xd

[caughtbywitness]

I have no problem, I do very little, and hardly enjoy it.

[Z3ni]

[KaraBulut]

Originally Posted by BushHippie

STOP masturbating

Originally Posted by BushHippie

Wank away!

Well, this is certainly a mixed message.


Somewhere between wanking your life away and denying yourself a healthy sex life, is something called "the happy medium".

Originally Posted by BushHippie

Well you're older! I'm betting that you're already pretty well established and aren't anxiously trying to establish a better career/network/friend circle/sex life like us younger guys.

No, we've just had a few more years to perfect the art of juggling- a partner, a home, a career and a personal life. Occasionally, it may be one-handed juggling, but it's all about priorities and time management.

And the happy medium.

[BushHippie]

Hmm? I think you misunderstood. Especially at a younger age, supposedly conserving your bodily fluids is key to playing above yourself. In all aspects, not just sex life.

At an older life, maybe it's not as necessary to PUSH IT TO the limit so much considering where you're at. Though I do believe in constantly reaching for the stars so long as it doesn't detract from your actual personal life.

Masturbation is not something I would consider part of your sex life. More like isolated self entertainment. Now you could argue that us bottoms do need to practice a little sometimes and I would agree.

[Drowzee64]

Masturbation just loses its thrill when you do it all the time. During periods where I do it at least once a day, it's just a habit that isn't fun at all. During periods where I do it every few days to a week, it just feels so much better!

[Lexington]

>>>Well you're older! I'm betting that you're already pretty well established and aren't anxiously trying to establish a better career/network/friend circle/sex life like us younger guys.

Well, yeah, I am. But I think I was in that position even back in my teens and twenties. Yeah, I found out the hard way about "pushing my limits", and quickly learned that "forcing the orgasm" - pushing myself to have one even when my body wasn't all that interested - was a waste of time. But I don't think there was ever a time when masturbation was interfering with the other aspects of my life. Like many young folks, I jerked off just before going to sleep, or perhaps right after waking up. And I don't think that's a time most people spend advancing their career or their social lives. If you really think your masturbatory habits are interfering with those aspects of your life, then yeah, cut down somewhat.

Lex

[crazyhead]

Okay, so like, I like masturbating. You know, like, a lot. I've been enjoying it quite a bit since my boyfriend pretty much lost his sex drive. (Not completely, but not the point of my post.) What I'm getting at is I wanna play too. Sure I won't be doing it for religious reasons. Mostly just to see what I can do. I'll let you know when I crack. Anyone else want a go at this?

But if my boyfriend wants sex, I'm not using this as a reason to hold out.

[TheEdend]

As far as I know, and have experienced, how much you or how often you jack off really doesn't affect the rest of your life one bit. Not only that, but conserving your bodily fluids will also mean that you shouldn't have sex in order to "play above yourself".

The problem that I have with most articles, like the one linked above, is the fact that they closely connect jacking off and watching porn, which is pretty ridiculous.

Would we have the same problem without porn? Can you "safely" jack off as long as you don't use porn? If you jack off using fantasy, which ones are okay and which ones cross the line? Why is jacking off harmful, yet sex is completely okay?

[BushHippie]

Real quick before work:

1. Lex: Doesn't matter when, what matters is losing out on that drive.
2. crazy: Right on!! Let's do this! Sex is allowed though.
3. TheEdend: Read the articles. Our bodies know more than you think. Sex and jerk is different and since you really know it and you are your body why wouldn't you know it? Though I do agree in a way and always keep myself objective when it comes to these stranger sciences. Still worth giving it a "shot" though and seeing what kind of differences are noted.

[ArcaneVerse]

Originally Posted by BushHippie

Real quick before work:

1. Lex: Doesn't matter when, what matters is losing out on that drive.
2. crazy: Right on!! Let's do this! Sex is allowed though.
3. TheEdend: Read the articles. Our bodies know more than you think. Sex and jerk is different and since you really know it and you are your body why wouldn't you know it? Though I do agree in a way and always keep myself objective when it comes to these stranger sciences. Still worth giving it a "shot" though and seeing what kind of differences are noted.

Comment 2 contradicts comment 1, sex will lose that "drive" your talking about whether there is a difference between sex and jerking off or not.

Holding off from masturbation can give you that little bit of extra energy or "drive" as you put it, but only to a point. In the end your going to drive yourself crazy because you haven't gotten off for awhile, you wont be able to concentrate and may have trouble sleeping, which defeats the point of stopping.

Granted taking a break every now and then is a good thing, stopping all together imo isn't such a good idea as it can have some bad effects on both the body and the mind.

Are you going to feel guilty and ashamed if you don't manage to stop or you slip up? I suggest you really look at why you want to stop and the feelings you have about masturbation and maybe look for other ways in your life that you can achieve the same "drive", like regular exercise or eating better high energy foods.

anyways that's all just my opinion, go ahead and do what you feel is best I just think there are better ways to go about achieving your life goals other then not jerking off.

[SA Boy]

I intend to do it much less because for some reason it seems to make me really nervous and shy, if it didn't have this effect i would no way stop.

[Robert]

Originally Posted by SA Boy

I intend to do it much less because for some reason it seems to make me really nervous and shy, if it didn't have this effect i would no way stop.

Huh? How does it make you nervous and shy?



The only reason why I stop masturbating for any extended period of time is (1) if Im around someone elses house or (2) if I want to save my self up so I can feel like a badass when, a few days later when I do masturbate, my semen explodes out of my penis in increased quantity and at a very fast rate.

Originally Posted by Corporal Sparks

Huh? How does it make you nervous and shy?



The only reason why I stop masturbating for any extended period of time is (1) if Im around someone elses house or (2) if I want to save my self up so I can feel like a badass when, a few days later when I do masturbate, my semen explodes out of my penis in increased quantity and at a very fast rate.

Hmmm yummy LOL (kidding).

I love masturbating, and only stop when I am too busy or I don't have time or too tired. But when I am free and horny, I may masturbate more than once in a day... LOL.

[Chip]

Originally Posted by BushHippie

Hmm? I think you misunderstood. Especially at a younger age, supposedly conserving your bodily fluids is key to playing above yourself. In all aspects, not just sex life.

There's information in the tantric literature and some other eastern philosophy that conserving semen has a meaningful, positive impact on prana or chi (the "vital force" or energy that makes us who we are according to that philosophy) but there's absolutely no evidence based on biology that conserving semen has any effect on energy or anything else. There's an old wive's tale that some coaches follow, telling their team members not to masturbate during the season, but nothing to actually show there's any objective basis for it, other than the eastern philosophy or tantric literature, as far as I'm aware.

Masturbation is not something I would consider part of your sex life. More like isolated self entertainment. Now you could argue that us bottoms do need to practice a little sometimes and I would agree.

Most everyone in the field of psychology and sex therapy does consider masturbation to be a normal and healthy part of one's sex life. The studies I've seen indicate that the majority of men in relationships masturbate in addition to sexual experiences they have with their partners.

[starfish]

We sure talk about masturbation a lot....