Sexual Awareness = Feeling Horny?

[squally89]

Hi everyone,

Is there a difference between being sexually aware of yourself vs. just being horny?

I grew up in a conservative environment and lately I allowed myself to feel "okay" about being horny (not that I am ashamed of my sexual energy, I was just never taught on how to handle it.)

Just wondering what everyone thinks about this.

[Doctor Faustus]

I think it's not so much a difference between sexual awareness and feeling horny as a distinction between having safe, enjoyable sex and not being responsible for your own body. Like, you might feel horny for someone and have a crush on them, but not act on those feelings, which is fine. Feel free to explore your body - masturbate, look at your penis in the mirror, watch porn. Whoring yourself out for casual sex however isn't on.

Just my two cents. Does that make things clearer?

[Homo Novus]

There's a huge difference. Being sexually aware means understanding sex's place in your life. Understanding that when it is shared between consenting people, there's no shame in it. It feels GOOD, it releases endorphins and makes us happy. It also means understanding how your body works and what makes you feel good. What you need in a sexual relationship, etc. etc. In short, just because you are sexually aware, this doesn't mean you're any hornier than anyone else -- you just understand that there's nothing wrong with it! However, you may FEEL like you're hornier than someone who's NOT sexually aware, because you, unlike them, have no shame in it. You don't hide it or try to stifle it. Society has kinda painted a negative image of sex, which is unfortunate. Many people, women in particular, aren't sufficiently sexually aware as a result. I actually tend to believe that this is part of the reason why a lot more women have difficulty experiencing orgasm than men. Anyway.

TL;DR: They are very different.

[KaraBulut]

Originally Posted by squally89

Is there a difference between being sexually aware of yourself vs. just being horny?

If you ask most people to describe "being horny", most people are clear on what that is.

"Being sexually aware" is not so clear. What do you consider "being sexually aware"?

[squally89]

Originally Posted by KaraBulut

If you ask most people to describe "being horny", most people are clear on what that is.

"Being sexually aware" is not so clear. What do you consider "being sexually aware"?

What do I consider "being sexually aware?" hmm...
- Your energy level, and knowing your sexually energy (high/low etc)
- What turns you on (?)
- Knowing the difference between "pure sex" and "sex and wants a relationship"
- Ultimately, being aware of "why am I hanging out with this men/women" and having the analytical ability to know if is a good to do or bad idea

This is just a start~

[Samadhi]

Wouldn't being sexually aware mean that you would know when you are horny, and be familiar with the feeling to know how to meet it?

[malachite]

I think you're reading too much into this.

[Lexington]

In my head, "horny" suggests "wanting sexual release". "Sexual awareness" both suggests what makes one horny, and also has shade of acceptance.

Lex

[Hot Pink]

Well, I've known ever since I was a kid that I liked girls, but my real sexual awakening didn't really happen until recently. I knew it had happened when girls went from "cute" to "smoking hot." This happened with very little sexual arousal in my experience. Since starting HRT, I'm not really that horny anymore, but I can still tell when a girl is sexy or beautiful. lol