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jakeystar · 13th Nov 2011, 02:49 PM

Hello everyone.

my name is jakey (or jake), at least that's what i'd preffer to be called. I'm 25 years old and right now I'm not exactly sure who I am though I think I am transgender. (I once thought of myelf as bigendered but I preffer to think of myself as male)

I have always been a "tom boy" and could never understand the whole girly dressing up and taking hours to do make-up process. I had very few female friends growing up and had little interest in what supposidly normal little girls were into.

I just thought this was down to being a tom boy but in the last couple of years I realised it was much more than that. I started to identify myself as bigendered (only to a few close friends) and began to accept myself as that but the more I accepted it the lesser the desire to be female --- both mentally and physically. I am now thinking about my future and I like the idea of someday transitioning to male, which leads me to think maybe I am transgendered after all. but I know I'm no where near ready for that step yet. I have a long way to go before I do that, if I even do at all.

However just because I consider myself to be male does not mean I am not effeminate. people seem to automatically think being girly and being a girl are the same things. they're not. plenty of guys are girly and taking into consideration the fact I am mostly gay (i am technically pansexual as I'm attracted to cis men and women, intersexed people, trans or bigendered but it's rare I like women) and also have a sort of emo style (i have a fringe and I still wear eyeliner) makes me a bit of a girly boy at times.

I don't really have an interest in being a big muscle man. men come in all shapes and sizes and that's one stereotypical image I certainly don't want to fit into. in my view gender is a state of mind not a fashion statement >.< just be yourself.

anyway sorry for the long intro :P anything you wanna know just ask (i don't bite honest

) and I'll talk to you all sometime soon

Hope to speak to you all soon.

love,
Jakey

alex2020 · 13th Nov 2011, 03:27 PM

Bienvenue!!

jakeystar · 13th Nov 2011, 03:34 PM

ah merci beaucoup

Nazo · 13th Nov 2011, 03:35 PM

Heyo, welcome to EC!

silverhalo · 13th Nov 2011, 03:36 PM

Hey welcome to EC.

jakeystar · 13th Nov 2011, 03:58 PM

thanks guys! i feel so welcome already

Aeon Magus · 13th Nov 2011, 04:08 PM

Hi, Jakey, and welcome to EC.

thecat06 · 13th Nov 2011, 04:23 PM

Hello and Welcome!!

**Gerry** · 13th Nov 2011, 06:04 PM

Hi and welcome to EC!

Doctor Faustus · 13th Nov 2011, 06:06 PM

Hello! Welcome!

Artemicion · 13th Nov 2011, 07:31 PM

Welcome to EC.

Jessica816 · 13th Nov 2011, 08:59 PM

Hello and welcome to EC jakeystar!

13th Nov 2011, 02:49 PM	#1
jakeystar jakey star Regular Member Gender: transgender ftm Orientation: pansexual (mostly "gay") Out Status: A few people Location: sunderland, uk Posts: 19 Join Date: Nov 2011	Hello everyone Hello everyone. my name is jakey (or jake), at least that's what i'd preffer to be called. I'm 25 years old and right now I'm not exactly sure who I am though I think I am transgender. (I once thought of myelf as bigendered but I preffer to think of myself as male) I have always been a "tom boy" and could never understand the whole girly dressing up and taking hours to do make-up process. I had very few female friends growing up and had little interest in what supposidly normal little girls were into. I just thought this was down to being a tom boy but in the last couple of years I realised it was much more than that. I started to identify myself as bigendered (only to a few close friends) and began to accept myself as that but the more I accepted it the lesser the desire to be female --- both mentally and physically. I am now thinking about my future and I like the idea of someday transitioning to male, which leads me to think maybe I am transgendered after all. but I know I'm no where near ready for that step yet. I have a long way to go before I do that, if I even do at all. However just because I consider myself to be male does not mean I am not effeminate. people seem to automatically think being girly and being a girl are the same things. they're not. plenty of guys are girly and taking into consideration the fact I am mostly gay (i am technically pansexual as I'm attracted to cis men and women, intersexed people, trans or bigendered but it's rare I like women) and also have a sort of emo style (i have a fringe and I still wear eyeliner) makes me a bit of a girly boy at times. I don't really have an interest in being a big muscle man. men come in all shapes and sizes and that's one stereotypical image I certainly don't want to fit into. in my view gender is a state of mind not a fashion statement >.< just be yourself. anyway sorry for the long intro :P anything you wanna know just ask (i don't bite honest ) and I'll talk to you all sometime soon Hope to speak to you all soon. love, Jakey

13th Nov 2011, 03:27 PM	#2
alex2020 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everybody important, and anybody who asks. Location: Florida Age: 19 Posts: 1,437 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Hello everyone Bienvenue!! __________________ “Be yourself. Above all, let who you are, what you are, what you believe, shine through every sentence you write, every piece you finish.”

13th Nov 2011, 03:34 PM	#3
jakeystar jakey star Regular Member Gender: transgender ftm Orientation: pansexual (mostly "gay") Out Status: A few people Location: sunderland, uk Posts: 19 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Hello everyone ah merci beaucoup

13th Nov 2011, 03:35 PM	#4
Nazo Janis Ian's Lesbian Crush Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Facebook, not hiding at college Location: Michigan Age: 19 Posts: 2,071 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: Hello everyone Heyo, welcome to EC! __________________ are you feeling like a prisoner are you living life the way you want giving time to ones you love are you giving time to who you are

13th Nov 2011, 03:36 PM	#5
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13th Nov 2011, 03:58 PM	#6
jakeystar jakey star Regular Member Gender: transgender ftm Orientation: pansexual (mostly "gay") Out Status: A few people Location: sunderland, uk Posts: 19 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Hello everyone thanks guys! i feel so welcome already

13th Nov 2011, 04:08 PM	#7
Aeon Magus EC's Blue Gaylien Full Member Gender: I go peepee standing up xD Orientation: I'm a Man's Man Out Status: The people that I care about most. Location: South Africa Posts: 2,262 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Hello everyone Hi, Jakey, and welcome to EC. __________________ Sing me a Painting, I'll paint you a Song Inside my heart is breaking. My make-up may be flaking, but my smile still stays on. The show must go on.

13th Nov 2011, 04:23 PM	#8
thecat06 EC's Biggest LNJF and SNL fan!! Full Member Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! Out Status: Out to parents, campus, and 75 friends on facebook Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 19 Posts: 2,504 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Hello everyone Hello and Welcome!! __________________ So many years have passed, since I proclaimed my independence, my mission, my aim, and my vision, so secure, content to live each day like it's my last, it's wonderful to know, that I could be, something more than what I dreamed, far beyond what I could see -Dream Theater

13th Nov 2011, 06:04 PM	#9
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13th Nov 2011, 06:06 PM	#10
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13th Nov 2011, 07:31 PM	#11
Artemicion :D :D :D Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Anyone who asks, but parents in denial. Location: Vancouver BC Canada Age: 23 Posts: 1,112 Join Date: Aug 2010	Re: Hello everyone Welcome to EC.

13th Nov 2011, 08:59 PM	#12
Jessica816 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bi-romantic lesbian? Still working on it Out Status: Out loud and so very proud Location: Kansas city, Mo Age: 23 Posts: 255 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Hello everyone Hello and welcome to EC jakeystar! __________________ "Every gay and lesbian person who has been lucky enough to survive the turmoil of growing up is a survivor. Survivors always have an obligation to those who will face the same challenges."