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mike90 · 15th Nov 2011, 05:57 AM

Hey there everyone. I am new to the forum today, which also happens to be my 4th anniversary with Peter. I am 100% gay and just as proud of it. I have lost a fair few members of my family because I am gay, but it is their loss, not mine. I have always had the philosophy that the friends we chose become our true family, and that our biological family are best viewed as friends or nobodies.

I live in Rugby which is a town in the Midlands (England) but was born in Cornwall but had to leave because the average age of the town I used to live in reached about 200. I have three labradors, a cat and a pet snake (cuban tree boa). I live on the seventh floor and love the view out the window, with the exception of the fact there are no cute guys sunbathing anywhere near here

. Anyway hi from me and I hope I will not be too much of a pest to anyone on here

xx

silverhalo · 15th Nov 2011, 06:03 AM

Hey welcome to EC.

Junkist · 15th Nov 2011, 06:04 AM

Hi,I'm Patrick. Welcome to EC

It's sad to hear about your family but glad that you got over it. That's one of the reason why I'm still in closet. Congratulation on your anniversary,now I'm envy and lonely... T_T I'm sure you will fit well in this forum,no worry

I'm from East Midlands - Nottingham.Nice to meet you.

Nazo · 15th Nov 2011, 06:07 AM

Heyo, welcome to EC!

mike90 · 15th Nov 2011, 06:22 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Junkist

It's sad to hear about your family but glad that you got over it. That's one of the reason why I'm still in closet. I'm from East Midlands - Nottingham.Nice to meet you.

Rugby is kinda in the middle of the West and the East Midlands which is good because it means I am close to everywhere. There is no need to be scared of coming out, at the end of the day people who truly care will love you no matter what and anyone who cannot accept you as you are is not worth knowing.

Anyhow thank you for the welcomes

xx

Junkist · 15th Nov 2011, 06:28 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mike90

Rugby is kinda in the middle of the West and the East Midlands which is good because it means I am close to everywhere. There is no need to be scared of coming out, at the end of the day people who truly care will love you no matter what and anyone who cannot accept you as you are is not worth knowing.

Anyhow thank you for the welcomes

xx

The thought of getting rejections from my family and friends scare me out. I was tempted to tell one of my female housemates once(which I'm 100% know she is fine with that) but the thought of her unintentionally tell other people and the whole power of gossip freaked me out. So I gave up the intention of telling her

mike90 · 15th Nov 2011, 08:27 AM

It is natural to feel scared. One thing I will promise you is that one day you will be overcome by an urge to blurt it out, and when you have done it once it will get easier every time. You will feel so much better when it is off your chest. Feel free to message me if you like and I will see what I can do to help. xx

Chouchou · 15th Nov 2011, 08:31 AM

Congrats on your fourth anniversary!

...and welcome to EC, of course.

thecat06 · 15th Nov 2011, 09:06 AM

Hello and Welcome!!

Aielar · 15th Nov 2011, 09:36 AM

Welcome to EC, and grats on the anniversary

I think its sweet you have 3 labs, they are definitely one of my favorite dogs

mike90 · 15th Nov 2011, 10:00 AM

Thank you all...

xx

---------- Post added 15th Nov 2011 at 06:03 PM ----------

So happy... Peter had 48 red roses delivered and a teddy bear with them. I feel on top of the world right now

x

alex2020 · 15th Nov 2011, 10:32 AM

Bienvenue!!

mike90 · 15th Nov 2011, 10:44 AM

Merci, bonjour pour tu aussi. xx

sapphire · 15th Nov 2011, 11:04 AM

Welcome

**Gerry** · 15th Nov 2011, 01:50 PM

Hi and welcome to EC!

mike90 · 15th Nov 2011, 02:02 PM

Thank you both

Artemicion · 15th Nov 2011, 08:44 PM

Hello and welcome to EC

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mike90 · 17th Nov 2011, 10:44 AM

thank you... i already feel welcome on here

xx

15th Nov 2011, 05:57 AM	#1
mike90 Member Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Rugby - UK Age: 21 Posts: 96 Join Date: Nov 2011	Hey everyone Hey there everyone. I am new to the forum today, which also happens to be my 4th anniversary with Peter. I am 100% gay and just as proud of it. I have lost a fair few members of my family because I am gay, but it is their loss, not mine. I have always had the philosophy that the friends we chose become our true family, and that our biological family are best viewed as friends or nobodies. I live in Rugby which is a town in the Midlands (England) but was born in Cornwall but had to leave because the average age of the town I used to live in reached about 200. I have three labradors, a cat and a pet snake (cuban tree boa). I live on the seventh floor and love the view out the window, with the exception of the fact there are no cute guys sunbathing anywhere near here . Anyway hi from me and I hope I will not be too much of a pest to anyone on here xx __________________ Being gay is the best thing that has ever happened to me. If I was not I would never have met the most wonderful man in the world, my Peter.

15th Nov 2011, 06:03 AM	#2
silverhalo EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Quite a few Location: England, Age: 29 Posts: 3,166 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Hey everyone Hey welcome to EC.

15th Nov 2011, 06:04 AM	#3
Junkist Imprisoned 21 Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Not out at all Location: Nottingham,UK Age: 21 Posts: 50 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Hey everyone Hi,I'm Patrick. Welcome to EC It's sad to hear about your family but glad that you got over it. That's one of the reason why I'm still in closet. Congratulation on your anniversary,now I'm envy and lonely... T_T I'm sure you will fit well in this forum,no worry I'm from East Midlands - Nottingham.Nice to meet you.

15th Nov 2011, 06:07 AM	#4
Nazo Janis Ian's Lesbian Crush Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Facebook, not hiding at college Location: Michigan Age: 19 Posts: 2,071 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: Hey everyone Heyo, welcome to EC! __________________ are you feeling like a prisoner are you living life the way you want giving time to ones you love are you giving time to who you are

15th Nov 2011, 08:27 AM	#7
mike90 Member Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Rugby - UK Age: 21 Posts: 96 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Hey everyone It is natural to feel scared. One thing I will promise you is that one day you will be overcome by an urge to blurt it out, and when you have done it once it will get easier every time. You will feel so much better when it is off your chest. Feel free to message me if you like and I will see what I can do to help. xx __________________ Being gay is the best thing that has ever happened to me. If I was not I would never have met the most wonderful man in the world, my Peter.

15th Nov 2011, 08:31 AM	#8
Chouchou Warrior Goddess Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Homosexual (asexual?) and mostly homoromantic Out Status: To some friends, but not to family Location: Wisconsin, USA Age: 26 Posts: 1,109 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Hey everyone Congrats on your fourth anniversary! ...and welcome to EC, of course. __________________ "The good neighbor looks beyond the external accidents and discerns those inner qualities that make all men human and, therefore, brothers." -- Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

15th Nov 2011, 09:06 AM	#9
thecat06 EC's Biggest LNJF and SNL fan!! Full Member Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! Out Status: Out to parents, campus, and 75 friends on facebook Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 19 Posts: 2,504 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Hey everyone Hello and Welcome!! __________________ So many years have passed, since I proclaimed my independence, my mission, my aim, and my vision, so secure, content to live each day like it's my last, it's wonderful to know, that I could be, something more than what I dreamed, far beyond what I could see -Dream Theater

15th Nov 2011, 09:36 AM	#10
Aielar Timmies Lover <3 Full Member Gender: Possibly bigendered? Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: All but family Location: Vancouver Island Posts: 221 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Hey everyone Welcome to EC, and grats on the anniversary I think its sweet you have 3 labs, they are definitely one of my favorite dogs

15th Nov 2011, 10:00 AM	#11
mike90 Member Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Rugby - UK Age: 21 Posts: 96 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Hey everyone Thank you all... xx ---------- Post added 15th Nov 2011 at 06:03 PM ---------- So happy... Peter had 48 red roses delivered and a teddy bear with them. I feel on top of the world right now x __________________ Being gay is the best thing that has ever happened to me. If I was not I would never have met the most wonderful man in the world, my Peter.

15th Nov 2011, 10:32 AM	#12
alex2020 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everybody important, and anybody who asks. Location: Florida Age: 19 Posts: 1,437 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Hey everyone Bienvenue!! __________________ “Be yourself. Above all, let who you are, what you are, what you believe, shine through every sentence you write, every piece you finish.”

15th Nov 2011, 10:44 AM	#13
mike90 Member Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Rugby - UK Age: 21 Posts: 96 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Hey everyone Merci, bonjour pour tu aussi. xx __________________ Being gay is the best thing that has ever happened to me. If I was not I would never have met the most wonderful man in the world, my Peter.

15th Nov 2011, 11:04 AM	#14
sapphire Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Friends only Location: Montreal Age: 22 Posts: 34 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Hey everyone Welcome __________________ "No matter gay, straight, or bi, lesbian, transgendered life, I'm on the right track baby. I was born to survive!" - Lady GaGa

15th Nov 2011, 01:50 PM	#15
Gerry We're all a little mad! EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Las Vegas Age: 24 Posts: 5,551 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Hey everyone Hi and welcome to EC! __________________ "Everybody's journey is individual. If you fall in love with a boy, you fall in love with a boy. The fact that many Americans consider it a disease says more about them than it does about homosexuality".-James Baldwin

15th Nov 2011, 02:02 PM	#16
mike90 Member Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Rugby - UK Age: 21 Posts: 96 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Hey everyone Thank you both __________________ Being gay is the best thing that has ever happened to me. If I was not I would never have met the most wonderful man in the world, my Peter.

15th Nov 2011, 08:44 PM	#17
Artemicion :D :D :D Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Anyone who asks, but parents in denial. Location: Vancouver BC Canada Age: 23 Posts: 1,112 Join Date: Aug 2010	Re: Hey everyone Hello and welcome to EC !

17th Nov 2011, 10:44 AM	#18
mike90 Member Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Rugby - UK Age: 21 Posts: 96 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Hey everyone thank you... i already feel welcome on here xx __________________ Being gay is the best thing that has ever happened to me. If I was not I would never have met the most wonderful man in the world, my Peter.