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tabeykat · 22nd Nov 2011, 08:43 PM

I've been lurking now for a week (I think) getting a feel for this place. Over the years I have learned to distrust forums from personal experiences. But after lurking I have found that this is a nice site that seems to just be there for each other. I know that they all have their issues but I don't see them so I'm fine with that.

I'm a 30 year old female that has recently come to question my own sexuality. I have lived a life of a straight woman for a long time. I've never been a girly girl and I never will be. You could probably label me as a butch, though I hate labels. The list of questions I have is forever long and I am dealing with it.

My very flamboyant friend is the only one in my circle that knows what i am dealing with right now. I went to him in confidence about my thoughts and the first thing he did was give me a hug and said "Well I was wondering when you were going to come to me" he also referred me to this site and said it would be a good thing for me to look into.

The most disturbing part for me is the fact that after 30 years I am only just now asking about my own sexual identity. Makes me feel like I've either missed out on being happy and who I am or I am just a little slow on the go.

The one thing I have figured out over time is sexuality is not something that defines you. Its just who you are. It took me several Gay pride parades (supporting my friend) and many long convo's with him and his friends to figure this out. So though I'm questioning myself right now I'm not too worried about it. It will figure its self out with time.

So hello and be kind to me

thecat06 · 22nd Nov 2011, 08:57 PM

Hello and Welcome!!

Nazo · 22nd Nov 2011, 09:02 PM

Heyo, welcome to EC!

Artemicion · 22nd Nov 2011, 09:50 PM

Hi and welcome!

NeecoVirus · 22nd Nov 2011, 10:02 PM

Hi! Sounds like you are beginning quite a journey. Good luck.

Also, there isn't really a set time to question your sexuality. Different people deal with it in different parts of their lives. Hope this forum helps you out with questions you may have... or even just getting to know more people out there who have gone through similar experiences. Like my sociology course says, companionship is important.

alex2020 · 22nd Nov 2011, 10:29 PM

Bienvenue!!

Aeon Magus · 22nd Nov 2011, 10:50 PM

Hello, Tabeykat, and welcome to EC.

**Gerry** · 22nd Nov 2011, 11:28 PM

Hi and welcome to EC!

I'm sure you'll like it here.

Chouchou · 23rd Nov 2011, 12:22 PM

First of all,

to EC!

It's not at all odd or disturbing for you to begin questioning your sexuality at your age. This process begins at a different age for everyone. Many others began in their 40s or 50s. It's never too late.

kiersten · 23rd Nov 2011, 12:53 PM

Hi tabeykat!

Welcome to EC! I know how you feel, I came out a month before I turned 36 years old this year & I feel like I wasted so much time ignoring how I really was. But I just try to focus myself on the life I have yet to live, just being honest with myself & everyone else, & I feel a bit better that my future will be better! As hard as it is, dont spend too much time thinking about what's already passed, just focus on how you feel & what you want to do with the time ahead of you!

And remember, all of us here on EC are always here for you to chat with or lean on for support too...

Aielar · 23rd Nov 2011, 03:24 PM

Welcome to EC :3

NoName114 · 23rd Nov 2011, 03:39 PM

heyia, welcome to EC I hope this site helps you as much as it's helped me

silverhalo · 26th Nov 2011, 05:56 AM

Hey welcome to EC.

22nd Nov 2011, 08:43 PM	#1
tabeykat Newbie Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Questioning Posts: 1 Join Date: Nov 2011	I suck at subjects so Hello... I've been lurking now for a week (I think) getting a feel for this place. Over the years I have learned to distrust forums from personal experiences. But after lurking I have found that this is a nice site that seems to just be there for each other. I know that they all have their issues but I don't see them so I'm fine with that. I'm a 30 year old female that has recently come to question my own sexuality. I have lived a life of a straight woman for a long time. I've never been a girly girl and I never will be. You could probably label me as a butch, though I hate labels. The list of questions I have is forever long and I am dealing with it. My very flamboyant friend is the only one in my circle that knows what i am dealing with right now. I went to him in confidence about my thoughts and the first thing he did was give me a hug and said "Well I was wondering when you were going to come to me" he also referred me to this site and said it would be a good thing for me to look into. The most disturbing part for me is the fact that after 30 years I am only just now asking about my own sexual identity. Makes me feel like I've either missed out on being happy and who I am or I am just a little slow on the go. The one thing I have figured out over time is sexuality is not something that defines you. Its just who you are. It took me several Gay pride parades (supporting my friend) and many long convo's with him and his friends to figure this out. So though I'm questioning myself right now I'm not too worried about it. It will figure its self out with time. So hello and be kind to me

22nd Nov 2011, 08:57 PM	#2
thecat06 EC's Biggest LNJF and SNL fan!! Full Member Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! Out Status: Out to parents, campus, and 75 friends on facebook Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 19 Posts: 2,504 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: I suck at subjects so Hello... Hello and Welcome!! __________________ So many years have passed, since I proclaimed my independence, my mission, my aim, and my vision, so secure, content to live each day like it's my last, it's wonderful to know, that I could be, something more than what I dreamed, far beyond what I could see -Dream Theater

22nd Nov 2011, 09:02 PM	#3
Nazo Janis Ian's Lesbian Crush Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Facebook, not hiding at college Location: Michigan Age: 19 Posts: 2,071 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: I suck at subjects so Hello... Heyo, welcome to EC! __________________ are you feeling like a prisoner are you living life the way you want giving time to ones you love are you giving time to who you are

22nd Nov 2011, 09:50 PM	#4
Artemicion :D :D :D Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Anyone who asks, but parents in denial. Location: Vancouver BC Canada Age: 23 Posts: 1,112 Join Date: Aug 2010	Re: I suck at subjects so Hello... Hi and welcome!

22nd Nov 2011, 10:02 PM	#5
NeecoVirus Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Posts: 32 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: I suck at subjects so Hello... Hi! Sounds like you are beginning quite a journey. Good luck. Also, there isn't really a set time to question your sexuality. Different people deal with it in different parts of their lives. Hope this forum helps you out with questions you may have... or even just getting to know more people out there who have gone through similar experiences. Like my sociology course says, companionship is important.

22nd Nov 2011, 10:29 PM	#6
alex2020 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everybody important, and anybody who asks. Location: Florida Age: 19 Posts: 1,437 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: I suck at subjects so Hello... Bienvenue!! __________________ “Be yourself. Above all, let who you are, what you are, what you believe, shine through every sentence you write, every piece you finish.”

22nd Nov 2011, 10:50 PM	#7
Aeon Magus EC's Blue Gaylien Full Member Gender: I go peepee standing up xD Orientation: I'm a Man's Man Out Status: The people that I care about most. Location: South Africa Posts: 2,262 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: I suck at subjects so Hello... Hello, Tabeykat, and welcome to EC. __________________ Sing me a Painting, I'll paint you a Song Inside my heart is breaking. My make-up may be flaking, but my smile still stays on. The show must go on.

22nd Nov 2011, 11:28 PM	#8
Gerry We're all a little mad! EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Las Vegas Age: 24 Posts: 5,551 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: I suck at subjects so Hello... Hi and welcome to EC! I'm sure you'll like it here. __________________ "Everybody's journey is individual. If you fall in love with a boy, you fall in love with a boy. The fact that many Americans consider it a disease says more about them than it does about homosexuality".-James Baldwin

23rd Nov 2011, 12:22 PM	#9
Chouchou Warrior Goddess Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Homosexual (asexual?) and mostly homoromantic Out Status: To some friends, but not to family Location: Wisconsin, USA Age: 26 Posts: 1,109 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: I suck at subjects so Hello... First of all, to EC! It's not at all odd or disturbing for you to begin questioning your sexuality at your age. This process begins at a different age for everyone. Many others began in their 40s or 50s. It's never too late. __________________ "The good neighbor looks beyond the external accidents and discerns those inner qualities that make all men human and, therefore, brothers." -- Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

23rd Nov 2011, 12:53 PM	#10
kiersten KierstenChromium, Mistress Of Metal Full Member Gender: Transgender - MtF Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to 127 people & my parents & 1 cousin so far Location: Sarnia, ON Posts: 1,331 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: I suck at subjects so Hello... Hi tabeykat! Welcome to EC! I know how you feel, I came out a month before I turned 36 years old this year & I feel like I wasted so much time ignoring how I really was. But I just try to focus myself on the life I have yet to live, just being honest with myself & everyone else, & I feel a bit better that my future will be better! As hard as it is, dont spend too much time thinking about what's already passed, just focus on how you feel & what you want to do with the time ahead of you! And remember, all of us here on EC are always here for you to chat with or lean on for support too... __________________ Penny: What's Sheldon's deal? Leonard: What do you mean "deal"? Penny : You know, like, what's his deal? Is it girls? Guys? Sock puppets? Leonard: Honestly, we've been operating under the assumption that he has no deal.

23rd Nov 2011, 03:24 PM	#11
Aielar Timmies Lover <3 Full Member Gender: Possibly bigendered? Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: All but family Location: Vancouver Island Posts: 221 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: I suck at subjects so Hello... Welcome to EC :3

23rd Nov 2011, 03:39 PM	#12
NoName114 Dorian Grey-ish Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: committed to a amazing guy Age: 15 Posts: 214 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: I suck at subjects so Hello... heyia, welcome to EC I hope this site helps you as much as it's helped me

26th Nov 2011, 05:56 AM	#13
silverhalo EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Quite a few Location: England, Age: 29 Posts: 3,166 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: I suck at subjects so Hello... Hey welcome to EC.

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