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alex1170 · 26th Dec 2011, 01:44 AM

So I suppose I should make one of these seeing as I have been lurking and posting a little here for a while. I skipped this introduction step because I really just needed advice quickly, and everyone here helped a lot. Things are going pretty well right now. If you want you can read all about it in my first thread called "my story". So far I like how my story is turning out.

So about me. I am a super straight-acting guy if that makes any sense. I love sports and other guy things a lot. Almost all of my friends are straight guys. And I am very masculine with a deep voice and jock type persona. I am 20 years old, I go to college in northern california and I am a D1 varsity athlete. Basically I am just another straight guy, oh yeah, one more thing, I am attracted to guys. I also have recently found myself in a closeted "relationship" with another guy who goes to the same college as me. Neither of us are out to anyone else and we are both very similar to one another. He is the guy I refer to in my first thread. I am very lucky to have found someone like him because it is not easy when you are both completely closeted in every sense of the word.

Right now, I am not planning on coming out anytime soon. It is just not something I want to deal with at this moment and I am just not mentally prepared whatsoever. This is fine with me though. I am in no rush.

I pretty much always knew I was interested in guys, I just blocked it out and used porn as my outlet. I just thought to myself, I will deal with it later. The only reason I recently began to act on my sexuality was because I felt like at 20, some of my best years were getting away from me. All of my friends in college were hooking up with girls and were in relationships and I was pretty jealous. I felt like I was missing out, and I wanted to explore the idea of changing that. Also, around the same time I discovered the personals section on craigslist. I know it is super sketch, but I am smart enough to be safe and it is the best place I know to find other discrete guys like myself. Other online sites are just not as good for guys who are looking for other closeted guys. And as for not using the internet, good luck. CL led to my happiest relationship ever, so I can't complain. I am not advising using the site, all I am saying is that it works for me because I am super patient and cautious. Anyways, I feel like I am getting defensive for no reason. Sorry for that. I am actually a really nice guy, and I love helping people/giving advice. I also enjoy getting advice though, haha.

So I guess this is just me saying hello,

. If you guys have any questions for me please do not hesitate to ask. I am pretty much an open book, online at least. haha.

Hana Solo · 26th Dec 2011, 02:58 AM

I'm glad you found someone and belated welcome! LOL

GuyDC21 · 26th Dec 2011, 03:55 AM

Hey. Happy you found EC and someone in your personal life. See ya!

thecat06 · 26th Dec 2011, 09:12 AM

Hello and Welcome!!

summersforecast · 26th Dec 2011, 11:41 AM

Nice to meet you Alex! To be honest, I'm a little jealous. I miss the whole bonding with straight guys, because after they found out I like dudes they were never the same. Not to scare you though. They were highschool kids after all, but it is something to consider when thinking about coming out, which I realize you said you weren't planning on soon. Anyways, I look forward to seeing you around the site

silverhalo · 26th Dec 2011, 12:33 PM

Hey welcome to EC.

alex2020 · 26th Dec 2011, 10:23 PM

Bienvenue!!

Artemicion · 26th Dec 2011, 11:51 PM

Hello and welcome!

Doctor Faustus · 27th Dec 2011, 08:39 AM

Hello, welcome to EC. How's it going?

Glad to hear you found someone.

I identified particularly with this part of your account:

Quote:

I felt like at 20, some of my best years were getting away from me. All of my friends in college were hooking up with girls and were in relationships and I was pretty jealous. I felt like I was missing out, and I wanted to explore the idea of changing that.

I too often feel as though I'm missing out on a relationship: I'm quite cautious as you seem to be, but have had far less luck. I'm still single! Hopefully something will happen

.

Look forward to hearing from you.

Best,

Dr. F.

26th Dec 2011, 01:44 AM	#1
alex1170 Well Known Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bi but leans towards guys Out Status: Not out at all Posts: 149 Join Date: Dec 2011	hey So I suppose I should make one of these seeing as I have been lurking and posting a little here for a while. I skipped this introduction step because I really just needed advice quickly, and everyone here helped a lot. Things are going pretty well right now. If you want you can read all about it in my first thread called "my story". So far I like how my story is turning out. So about me. I am a super straight-acting guy if that makes any sense. I love sports and other guy things a lot. Almost all of my friends are straight guys. And I am very masculine with a deep voice and jock type persona. I am 20 years old, I go to college in northern california and I am a D1 varsity athlete. Basically I am just another straight guy, oh yeah, one more thing, I am attracted to guys. I also have recently found myself in a closeted "relationship" with another guy who goes to the same college as me. Neither of us are out to anyone else and we are both very similar to one another. He is the guy I refer to in my first thread. I am very lucky to have found someone like him because it is not easy when you are both completely closeted in every sense of the word. Right now, I am not planning on coming out anytime soon. It is just not something I want to deal with at this moment and I am just not mentally prepared whatsoever. This is fine with me though. I am in no rush. I pretty much always knew I was interested in guys, I just blocked it out and used porn as my outlet. I just thought to myself, I will deal with it later. The only reason I recently began to act on my sexuality was because I felt like at 20, some of my best years were getting away from me. All of my friends in college were hooking up with girls and were in relationships and I was pretty jealous. I felt like I was missing out, and I wanted to explore the idea of changing that. Also, around the same time I discovered the personals section on craigslist. I know it is super sketch, but I am smart enough to be safe and it is the best place I know to find other discrete guys like myself. Other online sites are just not as good for guys who are looking for other closeted guys. And as for not using the internet, good luck. CL led to my happiest relationship ever, so I can't complain. I am not advising using the site, all I am saying is that it works for me because I am super patient and cautious. Anyways, I feel like I am getting defensive for no reason. Sorry for that. I am actually a really nice guy, and I love helping people/giving advice. I also enjoy getting advice though, haha. So I guess this is just me saying hello, . If you guys have any questions for me please do not hesitate to ask. I am pretty much an open book, online at least. haha.

26th Dec 2011, 02:58 AM	#2
Hana Solo EC's Dear Abby- talk to me! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Mostly into girls Out Status: Closet is getting a little crowded Location: Not even a dot on the Australian map Age: 17 Posts: 1,096 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: hey I'm glad you found someone and belated welcome! LOL __________________ Thor: No matter what he's done, Loki is from Asgard and is my brother Black Widow: He killed 80 people in two days. Thor: ...adopted. ~The Avengers, 2012

26th Dec 2011, 03:55 AM	#3
GuyDC21 Member Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual, more to the gay side Out Status: Out to BF and half a dozen friends Location: Missouri Posts: 66 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: hey Hey. Happy you found EC and someone in your personal life. See ya!

26th Dec 2011, 09:12 AM	#4
thecat06 EC's Biggest LNJF and SNL fan!! Full Member Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! Out Status: Out to parents, campus, and 75 friends on facebook Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 19 Posts: 2,504 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: hey Hello and Welcome!! __________________ So many years have passed, since I proclaimed my independence, my mission, my aim, and my vision, so secure, content to live each day like it's my last, it's wonderful to know, that I could be, something more than what I dreamed, far beyond what I could see -Dream Theater

26th Dec 2011, 11:41 AM	#5
summersforecast EC Addict Full Member Gender: Carl Orientation: I like dudes and crazy chicks(mostly dudes) Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Johnson City Age: 18 Posts: 777 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: hey Nice to meet you Alex! To be honest, I'm a little jealous. I miss the whole bonding with straight guys, because after they found out I like dudes they were never the same. Not to scare you though. They were highschool kids after all, but it is something to consider when thinking about coming out, which I realize you said you weren't planning on soon. Anyways, I look forward to seeing you around the site __________________ meh..

26th Dec 2011, 12:33 PM	#6
silverhalo EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Quite a few Location: England, Age: 29 Posts: 3,166 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: hey Hey welcome to EC.

26th Dec 2011, 10:23 PM	#7
alex2020 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everybody important, and anybody who asks. Location: Florida Age: 19 Posts: 1,437 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: hey Bienvenue!! __________________ “Be yourself. Above all, let who you are, what you are, what you believe, shine through every sentence you write, every piece you finish.”

26th Dec 2011, 11:51 PM	#8
Artemicion :D :D :D Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Anyone who asks, but parents in denial. Location: Vancouver BC Canada Age: 23 Posts: 1,112 Join Date: Aug 2010	Re: hey Hello and welcome!