Oi! i'm in trouble :3 - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

Snuffy · 27th Dec 2011, 11:57 AM

Oi there, the one and only here!

I'm Snuffy. I live in Concepcion, Chile, far away in South America.
Music is my passion, I play an 8 string guitar that is my main instrument. I can sing too.

It became pretty obvious I liked boys as soon as I was like 11-13 I might think, through I didn't accepted myself 'til I was like 15-16...
I think of myself as pansexual, still I question my sexuality a lot since I haven't had a girlfriend since I was 14. I'm thinking about coming out next year.

I have a boyfriend since a week right now... I think I'll leave him.
I love him, but he's kinda rushing stuff and he wants to have some control over me I can give. He doesn't like the idea of me getting piercings, he doesn't like the idea of me sharing with my friends, specially another boys, and what hurts me most is that he asked me to quit another LGBT site that was the first one to help me to figure out my identity.
It hurts me a lot, but I think I'll have to quit my first boy-to-boy relationship. Not to mention I'm a virgin too.

Think of me as a lost kitten, help me, feed me, pet me, and I'll love you forever <3
Thank you.

Aeon Magus · 27th Dec 2011, 12:15 PM

Hello, Snuffy, and welcome to EC.

Coming out next year? Well, you have more than enough time to plan ahead - how and what you're going to say, who will you come out to first, etc. Think carefully how you're going to come out, it is your coming out process, so do it the best way that only you can.

I'm sorry to hear/read that you're thinking of breaking up with your first boyfriend. Being in a controlling relationship doesn't sound very nice at all... to take it back, you either have to talk things through, make him understand that he cannot control everything that you decide to do, or you end the relationship (which it seems you've decided on already).

Hope all goes well with your Coming Out - keep us updated.
Take care.

EDIT:

*puts down bowl of milk and pets you*
Aww, purrrdy kitty...

CandyClouds · 27th Dec 2011, 03:12 PM

welcome to EC. i'm new here myself, but it already helped me to somewhat accept my sexuality

what do you mean by pansexual?
you don't have to break up with your boyfriend right away, your relationship just started. if you feel like his behavior is gonna get worse or you can't bear it the way it is then you shouldn't torture yourself by being with him but maybe he's just insecure? the boyfriend of one of my friends is similar and he has low self-esteem.
anyways, if you wanna talk you can always pm me :3

PS: i love music, too. i'm a singer

PPS: i always wanted a kitten <3

**EM68** · 27th Dec 2011, 03:21 PM

Welcome to EC! You found a great place.

thecat06 · 27th Dec 2011, 04:17 PM

Hello and Welcome!!

Doctor Faustus · 27th Dec 2011, 04:38 PM

Hello! Sorry to hear about your bf troubles. Hope it all gets better.

Welcome to EC

. If you need anything just ask.

Best,

Dr. F.

silverhalo · 27th Dec 2011, 04:47 PM

Hey welcome to EC.

Artemicion · 27th Dec 2011, 05:21 PM

Hello and welcome to EC.

Hana Solo · 27th Dec 2011, 05:50 PM

Sorry to hear about your bf. But welcome!

*pets kitty and leaves plate of special kitty milk*

Snuffy · 27th Dec 2011, 06:14 PM

Aww, you're all so sweet, thank you <3

I feel like drunk on tears right now. I'll talk things down with my bf, trough I'm not looking forward to it.

I'm just sick of being 'disappointing'...

Hana Solo · 27th Dec 2011, 06:18 PM

I'm sure you're not disappointing. If you are a 'disappointment' to one person, then that's THEIR problem, not yours.

Allegro molto · 27th Dec 2011, 06:27 PM

Welcome to EC!

Hope you get to work things out with your boyfriend.

Nazo · 27th Dec 2011, 06:47 PM

Heyo, welcome to EC!

alex2020 · 27th Dec 2011, 10:07 PM

Bienvenue!!

27th Dec 2011, 11:57 AM	#1
Snuffy <3 Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: Not out at all Location: Chile Age: 17 Posts: 13 Join Date: Dec 2011	Oi! i'm in trouble :3 Oi there, the one and only here! I'm Snuffy. I live in Concepcion, Chile, far away in South America. Music is my passion, I play an 8 string guitar that is my main instrument. I can sing too. It became pretty obvious I liked boys as soon as I was like 11-13 I might think, through I didn't accepted myself 'til I was like 15-16... I think of myself as pansexual, still I question my sexuality a lot since I haven't had a girlfriend since I was 14. I'm thinking about coming out next year. I have a boyfriend since a week right now... I think I'll leave him. I love him, but he's kinda rushing stuff and he wants to have some control over me I can give. He doesn't like the idea of me getting piercings, he doesn't like the idea of me sharing with my friends, specially another boys, and what hurts me most is that he asked me to quit another LGBT site that was the first one to help me to figure out my identity. It hurts me a lot, but I think I'll have to quit my first boy-to-boy relationship. Not to mention I'm a virgin too. Think of me as a lost kitten, help me, feed me, pet me, and I'll love you forever <3 Thank you.

27th Dec 2011, 12:15 PM	#2
Aeon Magus EC's Blue Gaylien Full Member Gender: I go peepee standing up xD Orientation: I'm a Man's Man Out Status: The people that I care about most. Location: South Africa Posts: 2,262 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Oi! i'm in trouble :3 Hello, Snuffy, and welcome to EC. Coming out next year? Well, you have more than enough time to plan ahead - how and what you're going to say, who will you come out to first, etc. Think carefully how you're going to come out, it is your coming out process, so do it the best way that only you can. I'm sorry to hear/read that you're thinking of breaking up with your first boyfriend. Being in a controlling relationship doesn't sound very nice at all... to take it back, you either have to talk things through, make him understand that he cannot control everything that you decide to do, or you end the relationship (which it seems you've decided on already). Hope all goes well with your Coming Out - keep us updated. Take care. EDIT: puts down bowl of milk and pets you Aww, purrrdy kitty... __________________ Sing me a Painting, I'll paint you a Song Inside my heart is breaking. My make-up may be flaking, but my smile still stays on. The show must go on.

27th Dec 2011, 03:12 PM	#3
CandyClouds Ein bisschen Bi schadet nie Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Kinsey scale 2/3 Out Status: Not out at all Location: Germany Age: 19 Posts: 22 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: Oi! i'm in trouble :3 welcome to EC. i'm new here myself, but it already helped me to somewhat accept my sexuality what do you mean by pansexual? you don't have to break up with your boyfriend right away, your relationship just started. if you feel like his behavior is gonna get worse or you can't bear it the way it is then you shouldn't torture yourself by being with him but maybe he's just insecure? the boyfriend of one of my friends is similar and he has low self-esteem. anyways, if you wanna talk you can always pm me :3 PS: i love music, too. i'm a singer PPS: i always wanted a kitten <3 __________________

27th Dec 2011, 03:21 PM	#4
EM68 Happily Married! :) EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about. Location: Stoughton, Massachusetts USA Age: 43 Posts: 4,288 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Oi! i'm in trouble :3 Welcome to EC! You found a great place. __________________ I'm beautiful in my way, 'Cause God makes no mistakes I'm on the right track, baby I was Born This Way -Lady Gaga

27th Dec 2011, 04:17 PM	#5
thecat06 EC's Biggest LNJF and SNL fan!! Full Member Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! Out Status: Out to parents, campus, and 75 friends on facebook Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 19 Posts: 2,504 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Oi! i'm in trouble :3 Hello and Welcome!! __________________ So many years have passed, since I proclaimed my independence, my mission, my aim, and my vision, so secure, content to live each day like it's my last, it's wonderful to know, that I could be, something more than what I dreamed, far beyond what I could see -Dream Theater

27th Dec 2011, 04:38 PM	#6
Doctor Faustus EC's resident Philosopher at Large Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not straight. But only interested in men. xD Out Status: People who ask me. People whom I trust. Location: Basingstoke Posts: 1,610 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Oi! i'm in trouble :3 Hello! Sorry to hear about your bf troubles. Hope it all gets better. Welcome to EC . If you need anything just ask. Best, Dr. F. __________________ "I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love." - Mother Teresa.

27th Dec 2011, 04:47 PM	#7
silverhalo EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Quite a few Location: England, Age: 29 Posts: 3,166 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Oi! i'm in trouble :3 Hey welcome to EC.

27th Dec 2011, 05:21 PM	#8
Artemicion :D :D :D Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Anyone who asks, but parents in denial. Location: Vancouver BC Canada Age: 23 Posts: 1,112 Join Date: Aug 2010	Re: Oi! i'm in trouble :3 Hello and welcome to EC.

27th Dec 2011, 05:50 PM	#9
Hana Solo EC's Dear Abby- talk to me! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Mostly into girls Out Status: Closet is getting a little crowded Location: Not even a dot on the Australian map Age: 17 Posts: 1,096 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Oi! i'm in trouble :3 Sorry to hear about your bf. But welcome! pets kitty and leaves plate of special kitty milk __________________ Thor: No matter what he's done, Loki is from Asgard and is my brother Black Widow: He killed 80 people in two days. Thor: ...adopted. ~The Avengers, 2012

27th Dec 2011, 06:14 PM	#10
Snuffy <3 Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: Not out at all Location: Chile Age: 17 Posts: 13 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: Oi! i'm in trouble :3 Aww, you're all so sweet, thank you <3 I feel like drunk on tears right now. I'll talk things down with my bf, trough I'm not looking forward to it. I'm just sick of being 'disappointing'...

27th Dec 2011, 06:18 PM	#11
Hana Solo EC's Dear Abby- talk to me! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Mostly into girls Out Status: Closet is getting a little crowded Location: Not even a dot on the Australian map Age: 17 Posts: 1,096 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Oi! i'm in trouble :3 I'm sure you're not disappointing. If you are a 'disappointment' to one person, then that's THEIR problem, not yours. __________________ Thor: No matter what he's done, Loki is from Asgard and is my brother Black Widow: He killed 80 people in two days. Thor: ...adopted. ~The Avengers, 2012

27th Dec 2011, 06:27 PM	#12
Allegro molto Kyoufu wo oshiete yarou. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Kinsey 6 (100% Gay) Out Status: Officially told 1 person! Posts: 2,334 Join Date: Apr 2011	Re: Oi! i'm in trouble :3 Welcome to EC! Hope you get to work things out with your boyfriend. __________________ In the end, I always end up alone.

27th Dec 2011, 06:47 PM	#13
Nazo Janis Ian's Lesbian Crush Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Facebook, not hiding at college Location: Michigan Age: 19 Posts: 2,071 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: Oi! i'm in trouble :3 Heyo, welcome to EC! __________________ are you feeling like a prisoner are you living life the way you want giving time to ones you love are you giving time to who you are

27th Dec 2011, 10:07 PM	#14
alex2020 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everybody important, and anybody who asks. Location: Florida Age: 19 Posts: 1,437 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Oi! i'm in trouble :3 Bienvenue!! __________________ “Be yourself. Above all, let who you are, what you are, what you believe, shine through every sentence you write, every piece you finish.”

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