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thiciati · 7th Jan 2012, 10:51 AM

Well, you can probably tell that I'm new since I'm posting here. I suppose this is the part where I ramble about myself a bit, though there's not much to tell...

I've not accepted that I liked girls for very long, to be honest. I struggled for years with how I felt, which was part of the problem- I was raised in a very conservative home (my dad's a preacher) and for the most part, I felt I was sinning. As I got older, I started forming my own opinions about the world, and grew much more tolerant of things that were 'wrong'. After a friend of mine came out, I realized that there was nothing wrong with her. She wasn't a depraved, evil person. I still felt it was a sin, but I accepted her as she was.

Then I met my current boyfriend, Jonathan. Jon and I are both Christian, but the major difference between us is he felt homosexuality wasn't a sin. I admit to being a stubborn individual, and the issue caused some tension between us, especially because his best female friends were in a gay relationship. So one night, he had a plan to make me believe he was a lady. I regret to say that yes, I am that gullible.

So after he saw that I believed him, he asked if I was going to break up with him. During this, I didn't even consider breaking up; I'd been planning on how to tell my family and friends I was dating 'her'. After that, he grinned and happily informed me that he's a jerkface. (What he actually said was, "Yea, everything I just told you? That was a lie for the greater good. I don't have lady bits.")

Well, his plan worked. I realized that it's not really the gender that matters, it's the person. Good lesson, terrible way to go about it.

So then I finally sat down and let Jon tell his part, and I had to admit, he did make sense now that I actually listened to the points he was making.

And that's how I came to accept myself as bi... as corny as that sounds.

Mercy · 7th Jan 2012, 11:55 AM

Welcome

Sheyceli · 7th Jan 2012, 12:00 PM

Welcome to EC! Everyone here is really friendly. I'm glad you came to accept who you are and that you have realized that you like girls. Your boyfriend sounds pretty cool and supportive, by the way.

Mercy · 7th Jan 2012, 12:01 PM

i agree with op

Nazo · 7th Jan 2012, 12:24 PM

Heyo, welcome to EC!

fiddledeedee · 7th Jan 2012, 01:25 PM

Welcome to EC, Thiciati!

Artemicion · 7th Jan 2012, 04:13 PM

Hello and welcome to EC!

stupidIvan · 7th Jan 2012, 04:20 PM

Hey, welcome to EC! :::: ) You'll be able to explore a plethora of different views here, and everyone here is SO nice! Again, welcome!

thecat06 · 7th Jan 2012, 04:49 PM

Hello and Welcome!!

alex2020 · 7th Jan 2012, 04:51 PM

Bienvenue!!

silverhalo · 7th Jan 2012, 06:31 PM

Hey welcome to EC.

Aeon Magus · 8th Jan 2012, 09:45 AM

Hello, Thiciati, and welcome to EC.

thiciati · 8th Jan 2012, 10:59 PM

Thank you all for your welcomes.

waitingfordawn · 9th Jan 2012, 12:37 AM

Welcome, welcome!

I just joined too, love it here.

xXPsychedelicXx · 11th Jan 2012, 06:45 AM

Heyyy! Welcome to EC!

Haha! Jon sounds awesome. Give him a high-5 from me.

Doctor Faustus · 11th Jan 2012, 08:09 AM

Welcome!

Issac · 12th Feb 2012, 08:58 PM

Salve, and congrats on your discovery. (:

7th Jan 2012, 10:51 AM	#1
thiciati Some ginger kid. Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: A few people Location: Virginia Age: 19 Posts: 53 Join Date: Jan 2012	Well hai thar. Well, you can probably tell that I'm new since I'm posting here. I suppose this is the part where I ramble about myself a bit, though there's not much to tell... I've not accepted that I liked girls for very long, to be honest. I struggled for years with how I felt, which was part of the problem- I was raised in a very conservative home (my dad's a preacher) and for the most part, I felt I was sinning. As I got older, I started forming my own opinions about the world, and grew much more tolerant of things that were 'wrong'. After a friend of mine came out, I realized that there was nothing wrong with her. She wasn't a depraved, evil person. I still felt it was a sin, but I accepted her as she was. Then I met my current boyfriend, Jonathan. Jon and I are both Christian, but the major difference between us is he felt homosexuality wasn't a sin. I admit to being a stubborn individual, and the issue caused some tension between us, especially because his best female friends were in a gay relationship. So one night, he had a plan to make me believe he was a lady. I regret to say that yes, I am that gullible. So after he saw that I believed him, he asked if I was going to break up with him. During this, I didn't even consider breaking up; I'd been planning on how to tell my family and friends I was dating 'her'. After that, he grinned and happily informed me that he's a jerkface. (What he actually said was, "Yea, everything I just told you? That was a lie for the greater good. I don't have lady bits.") Well, his plan worked. I realized that it's not really the gender that matters, it's the person. Good lesson, terrible way to go about it. So then I finally sat down and let Jon tell his part, and I had to admit, he did make sense now that I actually listened to the points he was making. And that's how I came to accept myself as bi... as corny as that sounds. __________________ Jazz hands are not an appropriate greeting when encountering the undead.

7th Jan 2012, 11:55 AM	#2
Mercy EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: A few people Posts: 1,412 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Well hai thar. Welcome __________________ Some times the ones you least expect too whal in to your life and change it for the better

7th Jan 2012, 12:00 PM	#3
Sheyceli lieks Mudkipz Full Member Gender: physically female Orientation: homoromantic asexual Out Status: one friend Location: Michigan Age: 16 Posts: 541 Join Date: Mar 2011	Re: Well hai thar. Welcome to EC! Everyone here is really friendly. I'm glad you came to accept who you are and that you have realized that you like girls. Your boyfriend sounds pretty cool and supportive, by the way. __________________ "Special doesn't have many kids, so the class is very close. The family feeling is greater here than anywhere else. They call us "weirdos" and "trash", but that doesn't mean anything. Don't struggle to keep up a facade for rankings or fitting in. Just live your life to the fullest!" -T. A.

7th Jan 2012, 12:01 PM	#4
Mercy EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: A few people Posts: 1,412 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: Well hai thar. i agree with op __________________ Some times the ones you least expect too whal in to your life and change it for the better

7th Jan 2012, 12:24 PM	#5
Nazo Janis Ian's Lesbian Crush Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Facebook, not hiding at college Location: Michigan Age: 19 Posts: 2,071 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: Well hai thar. Heyo, welcome to EC! __________________ are you feeling like a prisoner are you living life the way you want giving time to ones you love are you giving time to who you are

7th Jan 2012, 01:25 PM	#6
fiddledeedee 22/12-31/12+X! Full Member Gender: Complicated female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Most, sans Dad Location: England Age: 15 Posts: 1,128 Join Date: May 2011	Re: Well hai thar. Welcome to EC, Thiciati! __________________ A problem should be measured not by the cause of the problem but by the consequences it has on a person. ~ Anfauglith

7th Jan 2012, 04:13 PM	#7
Artemicion :D :D :D Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Anyone who asks, but parents in denial. Location: Vancouver BC Canada Age: 23 Posts: 1,112 Join Date: Aug 2010	Re: Well hai thar. Hello and welcome to EC!

7th Jan 2012, 04:20 PM	#8
stupidIvan I like hoodies. Full Member Gender: A masculine Genderqueer of some sort. Orientation: I don't really know right now. Out Status: My mother and sister, in a way. Location: Texas, yee-haw! Age: 17 Posts: 333 Join Date: Dec 2011	Re: Well hai thar. Hey, welcome to EC! :::: ) You'll be able to explore a plethora of different views here, and everyone here is SO nice! Again, welcome! __________________ "Don't ask me how I am! I understand nothing more." - Hans Christan Andersen's last words. He truly died as he lived: as A giant, adorable derp.

7th Jan 2012, 04:49 PM	#9
thecat06 EC's Biggest LNJF and SNL fan!! Full Member Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! Out Status: Out to parents, campus, and 75 friends on facebook Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 19 Posts: 2,504 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Well hai thar. Hello and Welcome!! __________________ So many years have passed, since I proclaimed my independence, my mission, my aim, and my vision, so secure, content to live each day like it's my last, it's wonderful to know, that I could be, something more than what I dreamed, far beyond what I could see -Dream Theater

7th Jan 2012, 04:51 PM	#10
alex2020 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everybody important, and anybody who asks. Location: Florida Age: 19 Posts: 1,437 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: Well hai thar. Bienvenue!! __________________ “Be yourself. Above all, let who you are, what you are, what you believe, shine through every sentence you write, every piece you finish.”

7th Jan 2012, 06:31 PM	#11
silverhalo EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Quite a few Location: England, Age: 29 Posts: 3,166 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Well hai thar. Hey welcome to EC.

8th Jan 2012, 09:45 AM	#12
Aeon Magus EC's Blue Gaylien Full Member Gender: I go peepee standing up xD Orientation: I'm a Man's Man Out Status: The people that I care about most. Location: South Africa Posts: 2,262 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Well hai thar. Hello, Thiciati, and welcome to EC. __________________ Sing me a Painting, I'll paint you a Song Inside my heart is breaking. My make-up may be flaking, but my smile still stays on. The show must go on.

8th Jan 2012, 10:59 PM	#13
thiciati Some ginger kid. Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: A few people Location: Virginia Age: 19 Posts: 53 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: Well hai thar. Thank you all for your welcomes. __________________ Jazz hands are not an appropriate greeting when encountering the undead.

9th Jan 2012, 12:37 AM	#14
waitingfordawn Well Known Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Queer Out Status: to friends and anyone that asks. Except family. Location: Montreal Age: 19 Posts: 140 Join Date: Jan 2012	Re: Well hai thar. Welcome, welcome! I just joined too, love it here.

11th Jan 2012, 06:45 AM	#15
xXPsychedelicXx ... and the lesbians. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Blue, pink and purple. Out Status: A few people. Age: 16 Posts: 174 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Well hai thar. Heyyy! Welcome to EC! Haha! Jon sounds awesome. Give him a high-5 from me. __________________ ... We'll write a song that turns out the lights.

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