So in another thread I was discussing that I was talking with a guy online. We were emailing each other every day and it was the best quality conversation I've had. It seemed inevitable that we would meet. When I finally brought it up, i got a line that went something like "I just started seeing another guy a week before talking to you, and it wouldn't be right to continue". This really surprised me because there was no indication anything like this was possible. In fact, he probably should have been talking to me in the first place. He also flirted with me first. Now this is the 2nd time in a row that this has happened, which means I'm not buying it. The first time I could see it coming because the conversation was kind of one sided. But the 2nd time was just strange. I could come up with all sorts of possibilities why he would have continued talking to me, but all end with him choosing the other guy over me. I wish I could ask why he was talking to me in the first place. What he thinking I just wanted a pen pal on a dating site. He was even comparing himself with the criteria I have on my profile and questing me if he still fits. If I just lost to another guy, I wish I could ask how he made his decisions. It would help me going forward why I keep winding up in this situation. I suppose I could have lost to a younger guy. I really want to ask why was he talking to me, what was he thinking, does the other guy really exist and if he does and he just likes him better, tell me why so I can use that information for my next contact. But I didn't of course. Should I do that? I wonder is this some type of line that you just tell someone when they want to talk in real time and you don't want to so you cut communication in this manner? Do you guys do this to people? I mean twice in a row seems really unlikely. What do you think?
I think it's pretty common actually, and it happens with girls AND guys. It's been happening to me for the past couple of months I've been on lesbian dating site. :bang: Although the difference is, they just disappear when I suggest meeting up in person. I don't understand the logic behind it, because why would you pay good money not to get anything solid out of it? And by that I don't mean a relationship per se, just meeting people in the flesh is solid enough for me. Have we become so emotionally distant as a society that we don't want to do socialise in person anymore? I personally don't do this to people. I treat people the same online as I do offline. Perhaps that's where I'm going wrong...? Perhaps I need to be more of a cold-hearted bitch?
It isn't you it is the type of people these sites attract. I prefer the real world when it comes to dating but a friend insisted I try it. It has been a couple weeks now and all I see are sleeze,, predators, lurkers and closet daters (dating is imaginary). It is like people gawking at a car accident.
And I guess I need to learn to be a promiscuous asshole. ---------- Post added 31st Jul 2013 at 03:06 PM ---------- That sucks because I can't find a real world for my age group. Although I can find them for all other age groups. I'm either the youngest or oldest guy in the room by double figures. So I'm stuck online. I hoped trying a pay site would be better.
