is it possible to be gay/bi without recent experience?

Never too old. There are countless people in your position, up and down the age lines, everywhere from questioning to certain of their sexuality. Try a dating site, talk to lots of people, ask a lot of questions and make sure your profile reflects your interests well. People will look for anything interesting to approach you about. Say hello to people as well, most users are convinced that it won't work for them, and a little hello is a huge boost towards confidence. Everyone is in the same position, so there's no need to be shy

 

As penguin machine said

We are never too old!

Big hugs and take a breath.

This site has helped me immensely over the past month since I joined, I was in the closet for 39 years, married (still married). Reading post and asking questions here has given me strength and more confidence, I don't feel so alone and realized how many other people also struggle and deal with their own journey which in some cases are very very similar to mine.

We're all queer, so your not alone, as easy as it is for an outsider to say.

Perhaps you need to relax a little and just take each day and feeling as it comes. Some one else out there is probably asking the same sort of questions, I know I do.

Perhaps find out about local LGBT groups or support networks in your area, you may then get an opportunity to meet and chat with a wider audience of people and get a better understanding of how you feel about your sexuality?

In saying that I'm struggling to find gay friends and support groups in my area, so good luck and visit EC often...:icon_bigg

 

You've come to the right place for sure! Welcome!

As has already been suggested - maybe getting involved in a local LGBT support group would be helpful. In north america there are PFLAG groups that are for the LGBT community and their supporters - so you could go and not necessarily even come out right away... But most people at that kind of meeting will be very supportive of someone who states that they're questioning. No matter how old you are.

And just hang out here. You'll read other people's worries and concerns and recognize them as being your own as well. Start your own threads - as you have here - or chime in on the threads of others. It's a great community we have here. It certainly helped me come to terms with my orientation when I was first coming out.

 

I hadn't had any experience with women in 14 years when I came out as a lesbian. I hadn't been involved with anyone at all in the 2 years since I left my husband. I'm happy to report that I'm right back in the swing of things - sexually and emotionally.