I am 28 and just coming out having never had a directly sexual relationship and maybe it's because I've never had any relationship or maybe I'm just in denial but in my head I tend to think of myself as young... but the majority of posters in the other topics appear to be between 13 and 17! No offense intended to anybody of any age but is 28 too old to be coming out and starting to pursue the truth of what I want in life? Have I left it all too late already?
I have no clue what the average age here is. I think it might average out to 20-25, across all the members, though teens are definitely represented. People can come out at 28 ... or at 68. It doesn't matter. It's about you and your comfort level. I think this specific forum exists for those who want to bring up age relevant issues (leaving marriages, children, work issues, etc.) or simply share ideas with their peer group. There are no age rules as to who can post in "Later in Life," nor what exactly constitutes "Later in Life." Age is a number. I just wish I could freeze it at 39. J/K. Hope that helps.
God no. You're exactly where you need to be. It's better to come out at 28 and figure out what you want in life than to come out at 50 and destroy your marriage. I have no idea how people come out so young, my bullies were bad enough at 12 that I didn't come out till I was 23. I guess kids weren't treated so badly elsewhere and in more recent years. 28 is perfectly reasonable. You're on the right track
Came out at 45. Did not date at all until 30. What ever age you are ready come out at is the right age. We all have different baggage from our childhoods and adult life experiences. It's scary at any age but worth "walking thru the fire to the other side." (Not sure who said that) (*hug*)
Came out at 49, started a relationship four to five months after coming out (though I tried to get one going before that - didn't work out). Still in that relationship. I told my mom I was a lesbian when I was about 23 or so because I really had no interest in men. Got married anyway because that was the thing to do. Told my ex recently that I was a lesbian and he said he suspected it when we were married. I cried.
there is no "limit" on the age to discover your gay. More importantly, if you were too old, would you just stay straight?
When I asked my gardener uncle what the best time of the year was to split hostas, he replied "When your spade is sharp". There's no "right" time--it all depends on your mindset, when you're ready and able to do it. Might be 13, might be 30, might be 51 as I am, might be 72. Do it when your "spade is sharp".
A human brain isn't even fully developed until a person is 25 years old. You're 28? See, still a baby. Now take whatever time you need to get to know yourself, and you'll know when you're ready. But as everyone else (and George Eliot) have said, "It's never too late to be who you might have been." And I'm counting on that!
I'm 34 and just coming out myself, and there is no "age limit" on this forum You'll sometimes even notice teenagers posting in this forum, and sometimes they have the best advice that there could possibly be I think you're doing just fine at 28.Wish I could have done it then!
I'm 28 and just came out to myself a few weeks ago similiar situation no relationship expereience etc. Interesting times I try not to look back but instead look to the future.
I am 65 and came out at 63. I always knew but for religious reasons remained closeted. No more out to those I care about the do not mean enough to me to worry about. Whyme10(!)