finally found song about married gay guy i was looking for wanted to share

I remember that song. It isn't the most life-affirming message for us board members, but it is definitely a raw account of her anger and despair. Hopefully, if this was written by her and actually true, she has come to a more accepting place with time.

 

Thanks for the song. Very sad indeed. How many of us there are that have sadly put women or men into this position. How sad that humanity does not accept us as we are born . The sadness that our simple love for a same sex person is not accepted forces so many of us into marriages that never should have been. I know my wife and I sadly are victims. :tears:

 

I don't know, infidelity is infidelity. Yes, in my own situation, it would have made my life a whole lot easier if he found joy and satisfaction elsewhere, (and I will admit to having wished he would for the past 10 years) but if I were a straight wife, I think I'd be a whole lot more upset if he were with someone I could compete with, because that would mean I lost.

But as far as I'm concerned, infidelity is absolutely unacceptable no matter what the gender of the "other" trollop.

 

I'm sorry, but in this particular case, I think it's more about 'her man' not accepting himself as he was born.

It may have taken me a very long time, but although I am in the process of separating, I will not even begin to look elsewhere until we live under separate roofs. No matter your sexuality, as long as your spouse believes you are in a committed, monogamous relationship, infidelity is wrong.

Infidelity is not a societal pressure, it's a self-imposed situation.

 

Oh, and for the record, I am not talking about the experimental one-ups, to me infidelity = affairs of the heart.

 

The sadness is not that some people don't accept us for who we are, that will never completely change, it is that the institutionalized popular norm tries to encourage and pressure us to be who we are not. It should be encouraging youths to explore all sides of their sexuality, so that they "get it right" before entering life-altering commitments with others. The legal barriers to having a "normal" life (job, home, marriage) must be removed, so that a person who is "out" cannot be legally discriminated against based on bigotry as they can now in some states; that will set the background on which a presumption of normalcy can eventually develop, as it has in other countries, so it is no longer stylish to be homophobic; then the pressure will be on the bigots to STFU when they get the urge to act out their homophobia.