Hi guys... I'm trying to make sense of something and would like your views. I'm a guy who has come out as 'I think I'm gay'. I have been thinking about attraction and I definitely find some women very sexy and I have just been watching lesbian porn (for purely experimental reasons) and love watching 2 beautiful girls making out. I know porn sex is far from reality but it still excites me very much. I also tried watching some gay porn and it didn't feel right (I felt dirty). I was wondering, would lesbian girls watch gay guy porn? It the turn on just watching 2 nice looking people? Am I totally weird? Arrrgghhhh.....
It doesn't do anything for me, nor does hetero sex. I do, however, like to see two ladies going at it. It doesn't even have to be porn per se. For example - I absolutely love watching two women kiss on a TV show. If there's more, that's even better.
Okay, now you're going to make me feel dirty just writing about it, but for the sake of your intellectual curiosity, I will. I have never been able to stomach hetero porn. Never. Same goes for gay male or trans porn. Yikes! Although I will tell you that I can read slash porn and if written properly, can find that exciting. I had honestly never tried watching lesbian porn until very recently, first assuming that it was only made as a turn on for straight men with lesbian fantasies - which is for the most part true, but also because I just assumed it would be as much of a turn-OFF for me as every other form of porn. Happy to report, I was wrong! Does that answer your question?
First off you have to remember almost all porn is made for men. Personally I love gay, straight, and lesbian porn. Gay the most tho. As far as kissing I have always loved watching lesbians kiss. I love watching gay men kiss as well. I could care less about straights kissing. I don't think that judging your sexuality by watching porn will be very accurate. Porn is just not real. Generally porn can't portray the true passion felt when connecting with a lover. I don't think there is anything weird. Maybe your mostly gay with a little touch of bi thrown in. I wouldn't worry about it really.
Bisexual here, so biased. But I find that hot porn is hot and lame porn is lame. Doesn't matter the sexes or the bits of the people involved. That said, among porn that I might rate as 5-7 on a 10-point scale for quality/hotness, I find the hetero stuff most hot, the lesbian stuff second-most, and the mm stuff least hot. Trans porn has never done anything for me, except in some cases, put me off (not that any kind of porn can't do that, if it's low enough quality). I do know there are bi and straight woman who are turned on by mm porn. I'm just not one of them.
Bigeagle, your thread reminds me of the movie "The Kids Are Alright," with Julianne Moore and Annette Benning. They play a lesbian couple who loves to watch gay male porn! They actually comment on this subject matter in the DVD commentary. Lesbian porn does nothing for me, but I'm sort of "meh" on gay male porn as well. Maybe I've just seen too much of it randomly over the years, and it's lost its appeal? I'd much rather see two men passionately making out than going at it like animals.
I love both lesbian and gay porn, but I detest straight porn! I'm sorry, but hetero porn makes me sick to my stomach.
Thanks guys. I guess what the above comments prove is that we are all different and have different desires, wants and needs. I guess I'm looking too hard for answers - I presumed that if I was gay, then I would find gay porn appealing? BUT, I am also aware of my deeply entwined 'internalized homophobia'. What I have realised, is that I find young/fit (legal) females very attractive, but older women less attractive. This leads me to the conclusion that I admire/appreciate the female form but in the real world, this is not enough to hold a marriage together. Oh dear, what a mess.....
I think I'm gay but I really can't stand gay porn, only enjoy some heterosexual porn and prefer to watch lesbian stuff. Good logic there...
I was looking at samples of queer porn the other day. It was my first time looking at it, because porn doesn't do anything for me, but my god, was it hot! It had a diverse range of women, and all of them were beautiful. I love every inch of them. I want to spend some of my birthday money on porn, but I probably won't, because my first student loan payment is due on my birthday. I have tried just looking at pictures of gay porn, and it personally doesn't do anything for me. I think it's because as soon as I see a penis, I just can't handle the situation. I'm not as disgusted by penises as I used to be, I still don't enjoy looking at them. On the first and only time I had sex, I asked the guy to cover up his balls. So I don't think I could watch a gay porn.
I ve got the same problem like you do. I am 21. I ve heard a million times that male sexuality is solid, and straight men shouldnt be able to be turned on by gay porn, and gay men shouldnt be able to get turned on by lesbian porn. Till my 20s I thought I was straight, I enjoy straight stuff, but I have gotten really hard with 2 gay fantasies and gay porn once (the foreplay mostly). Here is the funny thing though, when I had foreplay with girls I orgasmed several times and my dick got hurt from the excitement, I really loved it. Yet I didnt enjoy the penetration that much, the condom also didnt help, and my gf didnt help as well. So.. I have decided to abandon porn forever, to get my answers. I guess abstinence can lead you one way or the other eventually...
Sounds about right, except for the mess part. Porn has little to do with who we are, especially because so much is badly made and not realistic (two different problems). But even the best porn doesn't have to correspond to what you are. I'm primarily attracted to women, but I'm living with a man, and I prefer M/M porn. While a huge number of straight (and some bi) women share my interests, quite a lot of lesbians do too. There are reasons I've discussed elsewhere, but the message for this post is that it's not cause for concern, as others here have said.
I've never been much for porn personally as I tend to find it boring but I have seen some that I did enjoy watching.