What Can I Give to a Dying Person?

I would say stay as long as possible. I can't imagine myself wanting anything more.
Maybe a voice record of some memories.

 

Do you have a photo album from when you were together and placed you visited? Perhaps you reminisce over happier times, listen to music you liked back then. But I would make sure you remove photos of later girlfriends.

Thinking of you

Sale Gay Guy

 

Maybe you could ask her if she wants to be taken/go out? In the hospic garden perhaps? If it's possible. Something she can't do ever day. Maybe simply ask her...

 

I've heard of one thing which I thought was pretty beautiful: often people have not had the time to sort through old photographs, I don't know if this is possible with her, but it would seem like it would be a very memorable experience.

 

Anything small she gave you or you got together during your relationship would be great. "Sorry" is a great gift you can give to the both of you.

 

Hold her hand. Look in her eyes. You don't have to say anything. She will know whats in your heart.

 

Just being there for her. You can't put a price on that. Make the visit heartfelt and lengthy enough. Of the various suggestions, photos and stuff that might harken back to memories of your friendship will probably be more appreciated than a small gift.

 

I would say stay and think of all the good times. Things that have changed since then. And music gotta play music. Stuff you both liked or music from the.years you were together. Music makes everyone happy.

 

Biotech, when I was training as a hospital chaplain I learned a bit about those important moments towards the end of someone's life. Physical things are nice. Presence is best. Be there, all of you, give her your presence. Help her to find and claim and hold onto her dignity. Take her lead, control your own fear and anxiety and selflessly poor yourself out for her. That is the best gift I think you could possibly give anyone at such a time as death.

 

I would say that the greatest gift you can give to her, is just being there. Just hold her hand, and let her know you care, and that you are there. Stay with her as long as you possibly can. Like some of the others said, share photograph's with her if you have any. Take that stroll down memory lane with her. Just your presence Biotech, just your being there with her and for her, will mean more to her than anything.

 

1) Your time. Make it clear in your words and behavior that you are in no hurry to leave and will spend as much time with her as necessary.

2) Maybe a soft fleece blanket, a comfy pillow, or some scented hand lotion? Something that will make her feel a bit better despite what must be immense suffering.

I'm so sorry this is happening to her, and that you must resign yourself to losing someone who must have meant a lot to you. :'(

 

One thing to keep in mind - your visit is without a doubt the best gift you could give. Anything else is simply frosting on top of that cake.

If there's a food from your area that she likes, or something you cook that she would like, that's always an option. Or just anything that she can look at and reflect on your time together.

Lex

 

Everyone has had really great suggestions. One thing I would add is to let her know that you are willing to talk about her dying and death if she wants. Even in a situation where it is obvious that is going to happen, many people still avoid the topic because it is difficult or they want to sound hopeful. She may really want to talk about what is happening to her physically, or her fear/regret (or even relief from pain) about dying.

 

^You did something very, very beautiful today...what a gift!

 

How beautiful and precious that time was, Biotech. I'm really happy for you that you had such a meaningful visit.