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Moving out

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by bigeagle, Feb 8, 2014.

  1. bigeagle

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    Hi guys,

    Well, after 4-5 very difficult months I have now arranged to move out the family home next week. The realisation that carrying on 'pretending to be a happy family' is not viable leaves me with one option. I plan to move to a nearby flat so I can still visit and help with my baby boy. It saddens me greatly but I live in hope that this is the right thing to do. Moving out will be tough... But then will come explanations and difficult talks with various people. The next stage is gonna be tough and painful but I must keep strong and remember why I'm doing this. I refuse to continue with the lie I was living. The future is very unclear, but by facing my biggest fear I am giving myself a chance of real future happiness.

    Walk on through the wind, walk on through the rain....
     
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    We're right there for you on this adventure, wherever it leads, remember that you are taking responsibility for your own happiness, and that is very commendable, whatever the outcome.
     
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    I know where you are at right now. Good luck on your journey (*hug*)
     
  4. willycubed28

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    What you are doing is very courageous, and you are doing the right thing for yourself. :thumbsup: Just keep your head up, and you will get through this difficult time.
     
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    good luck bigeagle,

    Im right behind you in the process.

    Let us know how its going
     
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    Bigeagle, I'm two weeks behind you. I get the keys next week and begin the process of moving in almost straight away making it permanent in early March.

    There are times I think I could stay here with my wife and kids - but then I know I don't feel the same about her anymore, and I know I want to be with a man. I hope that you continue to find the strength in this. It's hard, and I know it gets harder. I'm just hoping that it's what we all hoped it would be when we arrive there.
     
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    Thanks guys, all these comments give me strength.
     
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    I imagine like pete1970 I'll be right behind you. Keep in touch, and let us know how it goes.

    Big decision, Sport. Congratluations. Spread your wings and fly.
     
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    OK, serious first... You're doing the right thing. You have to be true to yourself, and give your wife a chance at happiness as well. It's great that you'll live nearby your son, and hopefully you'll continue to be an active participant in your boy's life.

    Now, not serious...

    *JOKE*
    Dude, quoting from Carousel, a Broadway musical?
    You
    are gay.
    *ENDJOKE*