I am very much okay with who I am, bisexual. It’s me, it’s okay, it’s not that big of a deal like I first thought it was and reacted like it was. Now, I want to embrace and explore this new me. Socialize with other people. Bi/gay men my age and even other accepting people. Not for sex. For friendship and just social connections. Where I live, that is very hard to do. The LGBT is underground because my area is very conservation. What there is ( underground, ) is aimed at younger people or people looking to have sex. Social gatherings my for my age group ( 40 and older ) is seemingly impossible to find. So not cool. So I may have to travel a wee bit to find social needs and who knows, move to a more openly and accepting area. I am determined to build a new better social life. Friends and socializing helps.
Sadly this is a common theme for our age group, regardless of which stripe of the LGBT community we belong to. I applaud the resources available now to the younger generations, and even for those our age who had the courage to be out for years by now, for those of us coming out later we're left to fend for ourselves, try to stumble across each other, and figure out how we're supposed to feel a part of any community while being ourselves. And since so many of us do not live in gay-friendly meto-areas, the task is that much more daunting.
GayDad, this is the only real issue I have with my sexual identity. Living in an anti-gay, conservative area with no real social aspects. Do I really have to travel 50 plus miles just to socialize? Worst yet, move? Sad, but this is an issue for me. Grateful that it's the only issue I have.
Maxwell45 - I see your location is listed as "Southern California." I'm surprised that Southern California is an ultra-conservative area where gay life is deep underground?!? I would think any place within reasonable commuting distance (say 2 hours, after all it is SoCal) to L.A. would be used to having GLBT people around. While I realize Orange County has a conservative reputation, I doubt it's as insular as some places. My thought is: try to get closer in to L.A., but beware of the lookist/elitist scene in West Hollywood. Perhaps there's a lower-key area where being gay/bi is socially acceptable, but having a perfect body isn't an absolute requirement?
@paino71, I live in Southern California. The great I.E ( as in the Inland Empire ) area. L.A is at least 50 miles away. The drive in traffic out here to get there is really bad and not worth it just to socialize with the LGBT community out there. I wish my area was more open to LGBT. I hate having to dig through the underground here to find a guy who wants more than just sex from me and who is around my age. But thanks for your insight.
pretty much same situation here... local LGBT scene geared to teen/college crowd, not middle-aged formerly married guys with kids.... maybe drive 90+ minutes to Chicago, but who wants to do that every week, or even has time if they wanted to.
