Wife is suspsious

Hi,

Bring us up to speed as I know I need more of the story to comment.

Tom

 

How is she suspicious?

 

Those are all pretty good reasons for her to suspect that you're gay. You've practically told her already, haven't you? Most straight husbands wouldnt' talk about these things - not on a regular basis anyway. So you're pretty much told her already perhaps.

 

you're basically trying to out yourself to her without saying the words...it will all come out very soon it sounds like.

 

seems like hinting and joking and all that would be a lot more work, emotionally nerve-wracking, than just stating it flat out... then again, who am I to say, I've been a nervous wreck for a day and a half thinking about how I've spent 30 years of my life being the non-confrontational people-pleaser and now I'm supposed to drop a bombshell like this?! who knows, maybe someday down the line we'll think back and joke about how worked up I was and isn't that funny since we still good friends and the kids turned out fine after all....

 

Its been a long time you have been struggling with coming out to your wife. Coming out wasn't comfortable for me and most I think. When I came out to my GF all I could say is was that I was attracted to men. It got the conversation started.

Your a man of few words. So keep it simple. "I am Gay". Get comfortable saying it. Say it to yourself when you are alone, and looking in the mirror. Pick a time, sit her down and tell her. Its liberating.

A month after I told my GF I told my parents and it felt great being able to say the words "I am Gay".

Good luck my friend. We are her for you.

 

Its hard that is why there is so many people on this website, the journey isn't easy.

One piece of advice if you can say the words, I am gay, then you can move forward, take that small step you will feel so much better for it, if you know then just say it, would you hate to have someone not telling you the truth about something.

Its difficult for all of us.