Hi, Today is moving day #2... First was mid May of 2013. That brought me back to the US and my home state to live with family. Today I rent a room in a nice house and share the house with my landlord and another roommate. Landlord is gay, 49 (only sleeps with 20 year olds) and very different from me. He treats people like sexual commodities while I value relationship. I can live with the difference. It is simply one of the dichotomies of gay culture I do not understand and label as dysfunctional. As long as I don't treat people that way I am good with myself. Tom
Other roommate is 22, straight, previous home was a crack house. When he came to live here all he had was clothes on his back as crack house residents robbed him blind. People there are worse places to be than gay and in the closet. That young man proves it. I will be careful. Tom
Moving is tough. I have become sort of move weary. I don't even want to think about it. Kudos for your fortitude.
Rick, I sincerely doubt it (being a good influence)... When I arrived with my stuff a young guy was sleeping in the living room. I later learned he is 22 years old and has been (ummmm) enjoying my landlords company for six years. As a father I would like to take a moment to vomit at that. That kind of behaviour will not be swayed by my presence. It is sick. I am stuck for a while but you never know about roommates till you move in. My concern is that he will do something STUPID with a young man again and I live in his home. Guilt by association. Not sure how my morality would deal with seeing a young man being used that way. Disgusting. My friend who referred me to this guy (also gay with kids) for the room told me yesterday that he moved out because his sons were teens and he would not risk them with him. So this is short term at best. My plan.. I rent a room, no association otherwise. This is the type of guy Chip warns others about. I agree. Tom
Sometimes it's a good idea to see that others are facing issues that make our own pale in comparison... Tom, that was a good reality check. Hope your new digs are a perfect fit! Dino
well, it sounds like if nothing else your good influence could be brought about by standing up for a the next kid he seduces. Stay out of the way, but don't close your eyes to what's going on there, if something isn't right make sure the right people know. that's all you can do. and as for being told that by your friend after he referred you and you took the room.... just shaking my head.... not cool at all. I'd love to say more but, Wtf ?!
Hi, I have to be fair to my friend... He just never thought about. He realized it only after too. I am not at risk so it was not an issue. It was an accidental oversight. Tom
fair enough on the oversight, but I still say keep eyes open for anything untoward going on for your own good. and I agree with tim that you're probably still in a better place than before. the hostility from in laws and lack of support from your brother is just staggering, it drains you emotionally even when you don't realize its happening.
