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I told the kids.

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by azure au, Apr 1, 2014.

  1. azure au

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    I did it at last. I think its going to be ok. They were both encouraging and supportive. I even got cuddles which rarely get these days. I let them know we can talk about things at any time if they want to and told them they do not need to worry because nothing is going to change. I told them its entirely their choice if they want to tell their friends.

    I am surprised how very little they reacted which I shouldn't be because I raised them to be accepting. I cant believe I made myself sick over this for so much long. They are pretty wonderful kids.
     
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    Congratulations on the response you got! Well done.. That's lovely that they gave you a hug after telling them :slight_smile:

    You are very brave.
     
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    That's lovely, I bet that's a weight off your mind. Well done (*hug*)
     
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    Congratulations! It's a huge weight off of your shoulders when you realize that it hasn't changed anything. People often comment that "Kids today are so much more accepting", but they are accepting because their parents raised them to be--so, good job!
     
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    Congratulations, that is wonderful news to hear, it's really cheered me up.
     
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    Thanks everyone. I need to move on now and start thinking about telling my adult family members but at the moment I just want to breathe and let it sink in. I was so stressed about this.

    I feel so encouraged when I think about the changing attitude in the younger generation.

    Molly I am glad you are feeling better!
     
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    That's fantastic azure au! I think my kids will be ok too, my eldest two have accepted their dad being trans m to f with not much problems at all. Its my family as in dad brothers and sisters is who I worry about. I told my eldest friend at the weekend and she shouted out.... "Well that doesn't surprise me at all" LOL. She even admitted she has have had thoughts like this also over the last 10 years or so.
     
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    There is an organization in the US called COLAGE (Children Of Lesbian And Gays Everywhere) that is geares speicifically to the children of LGBT parents. You may want to check out their web site.
     
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    Based on Jim's referral, I checked this site out and I highly recommend it!
     
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    That is awesome azure! What a relief it must be. It really is great how todays kids are so much more accepting about things like this. Much progress over the years.
     
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    Thanks everyone. Having advice and support here made a huge difference. I still cant quite believe I did it!

    Thank you Jim, I will check out the colage site. Although things seem calm right now it is good to have resources organised if there are problems down the road.
     
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    Congratulations! Do your kids know that your adult family members don't know? One consideration may be not asking them to keep family secrets. I came out to my exhusband because I didn't want him to find out about my gf via our preschooler.