I'm new to this forum only a week now. And I have posted before on finding my partner watching a lot of gay porn. The reason I got on here was for advice and an understanding of what he may be going through,so maybe I can help him. So thank you everyone for your stories and advice. You all rock. Getting to it now..... We finally had a break through over the phone. I know it's not the best but it's when he feels the most comfortable talking about deep things. He said he doesn't look at other males in everyday life and think about sleeping with them. And never found them attractive per say. But watching gay porn turns him on a little and a few times he has had fantasies. But he feels as it is purely for sexual needs only. He has always said that he thinks he is somewhat a sexaholic. He said that maybe one day he wants to invite another man in the bedroom, But only if I was in the room.i asked him if that's because it would ease his mind a little that of his sexuality? And he said yes. I'm not sure how this all comes together and how I feel about it. But I said I feel I might be able to do that in order to support him. I reassured him with a lot of things and he said he was greatfull on getting things off his chest and that he felt it was good talking to me.yay!!! I just want him and us to be happy. So I feel it's a step closer for him to open up to me. I'm still not sure where this will lead us I think he is still finding himself and his sexuality. But I'm all for supporting and getting him through some of these things.
If your boyfriend is watching gay porn be prepared for the fact that he might be gay but not yet ready to come out. By saying he wants to invite another man into your bedroom this could be his way of exploring his sexuality within the safety of a hetrosexual relationship with you.
I'm glad that he was able to open up a little with you - and that you were supportive during that conversation. When I first hinted that I sometimes fantasized about men, my wife reacted very strongly and very negatively - which just pushed me back into secrecy and I didn't tell her any more. I hope you're able to work this out with him. Good luck!
