I'm currently mapping out emotionally and financially how to seperate from my husband of 10 years (2 kids, ages 6 & 8). I am acquainted with a lesbian couple in my area who were both previously married to men and have kids. My question to you is: would it be awkward for me to ask advice from them even though we don't know each other very well? Also, I might point out they live in my neighborhood and we have a lot of common friends who I wouldn't want to know all of this just yet. These ladies have always been very nice and friendly but I'm super nervous at the thought of discussing this with them.
I would absolutely talk to them. I reached to an old friend I had lost touch with and his partner. His partner came out in his 30s after a marriage. They were both full of helpful advice and support. They know what you are going through. And they will certainly value discretion! Good luck! You will likely make 2 new friends.
I agree I think they could really support you. I have 2 children aged 6 and 9 and have just split with my husband. I am looking for that kind of support at the moment. Go for it if you have the opportunity. X