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Does it feel the same?

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Eric Dave, Jul 5, 2014.

  1. Eric Dave

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    If you gay guys masturbated about thoughts of a girl would the ejaculation/orgasm feel the same as when you masturbate about guys? Im talking about the sensations not emotionally.
     
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    Since the actual experience of orgasm and ejaculation are physical, the sensations are going to be the same. However, the intensity of the experience is affected by arousal, which is mostly psychological.

    So, for example, a straight guy masturbating to thoughts of a guy may have difficulty getting aroused at all, but if he manages to get aroused and ejaculate, the sensation of orgasm won't feel any different than if he masturbates to thoughts of a girl... but the strength and intensity of how the orgasm feels, and how long it lasts, will likely be different.

    Generally speaking, if you're trying to evaluate where your attractions lie, what you'll notice is that it's easier to get aroused and stay aroused when you're thinking about whatever fantasies are in line with whatever your actual orientation is.

    The catch is... if, for example, you're finding very powerful arousal when thinking about men, and you aren't yet comfortable accepting that, you may have pretty strong revulsion, shame, or other discomfort, even though you're feeling arousal. Most commonly, this is something you feel immediately after ejaculation.

    I hope that helps.
     
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    When I try masturbating about a guy I find it scary tbh. It does feel more intense sometimes. I find it easier to masturbate to girls but the ejaculation feels different. I have Erectile dysfunction too and am still rather soft when masturbate about guys or girls hence the confusion. When I come its still softish for both genders.
     
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    Whenever I mastrubate I think of guys when I was in denial I would force myself to think of girls occasionally sure I could ejaculate but it wouldn't feel as gratifying.

    It was forced same as when I had sex with my wife,
     
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    What you mean more gratifying? Sensations better?
     
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    Not really better the orgasm is the same, it's just healthier on my mind
     
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    I am scared Im gay. I am 32 grew up masturbating about girls, loving it, looking forward to the day when I could feel their bodies and have sex etc.. I got sick and developed Erectile dysfunction age 19 during the illness. I couldnt get a hard erection like before. Slowly over time my attraction for girls lessened and my ED got worse. I havent had a proper erection since 2001. I never fancied guys growing up and never questioned myself. One day in 2007 the question popped into my head that maybe I was gay and thats why I couldnt get hard. I keep testing to gay thoughts even though I dont want to to see if I get hard like I used to but I never do. Now its become a scary obsession and I am thinking about my sexuality all day every day. I have developed groinal responses to guys which I never had before the obsession started. I get movements (but no erection )and sensations down there seeing a guy topless and feel anxious and scared. I then think Im aroused so I test by masturbating to the thought but dont get properly hard but sometimes the orgasm feels a bit better than when I do it for girls and this worries me.
     
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    Eric Dave I'm proud of you stepping forward and sharing with us. You have faced challenges that are very tough that some have not faced at such an early age. Can you be more specific about being "scared" or "worried"? Are you worried these thoughts are abnormal or someone might find out?

    I can't really speak to the medical reasons but it is completely normal to think about sex with guys. Most guys do but they never speak of it. There are guys who are straight that enjoy gay porn so please don't beat yourself up. We are here for you and look forward to hearing from you soon. (*hug*)
     
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    I'm not a guy, so I don't know, but I can personally say my orgasms feel differently depending on how aroused/interested I am.
     
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    Firstly I feel the need to say that ejaculation and orgasm are not one and the same thing. It is possible to feel orgasmic pleasure without ejaculating. I've had this myself a few times. (I just feel the need to let people know that, because not many guys know about this.) Secondly, well yeah I guess the physical sensations are pretty much the same, but then again, there's a lot more to sex, and the pleasure and joy of it, than just physical sensations...