So my wife bomb shelled me with the news as casual as, if she was telling me she was going to work tomorrow... 'My boyfriend moved in this week' She mentioned it the other week on my sons birthday that he night move in. I didn't react I just said as long as he makes you happy I'm happy, but come on she could of said it better than that right? She pushes me to the max picks at me whenever she can. Just venting I spose. Saves me venting at her and ruining relations.
Hi Richie It’s never nice to be on the incoming end of a bombshell so sorry for your pain, and yes she could have told you in a more sensitive way. I don’t know / can’t remember if you were planning on getting divorced but if she has a boyfriend move in so soon after splitting up perhaps you could argue that she had this planned for a while and it may help if you wanted the kids to stay with you if things turn nasty. SGG
good advise there. Richie, it sounds like she is pushing your buttons. keeping you off balance and maintaining some form of controll over you. Prehaps you need to say the hell with it and live your live for you and your kids. if she has a boyfriend living with her then she's his problem.
She could have said it better than that Richie, but you did well with your response. If she was trying to get a reaction out of you, you didn't give it to her and that must have been really hard. Give yourself some credit for that - many people would have reacted and caused hell for themselves in the process. You managed to sidestep the bombshell and keep your cool. Respect! Vent away fella - it's good to vent. Better than bottling it all up inside any day.
Do you deserve to be treated without regard and have your buttons pushed just because of her feelings of inadequacy and rejection? No, of course not. Her timing was shit. Either deliberately so, or just not considering the impact it would have on you and could thus have had on your son. But I agree that your reaction sounds appropriate. Well done. Oh dear...((((((((((((( Richie ))))))))))))) big hugs, hon. Good luck as it all moves forward!
