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Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by CyclingFan, Aug 7, 2014.

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  1. CyclingFan

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    Got the keys to my apartment the other day. Felt like a weird business trip hotel check in or something. Lots of mixed emotions, excitement mixed with sadness and guilt.

    Going to try to focus on the good stuff as much as possible.
     
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    Right there, that's the plan to follow. you are allowed the other emotions too buddy.(*hug*)
     
    #2 looking for me, Aug 7, 2014
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    Certainly focus on the good stuff.
    You can stay awake as long as you like, watch whatever movie you like, and maybe invite a cute friend over for tea.

    Cheers

    P
     
    #3 patric, Aug 7, 2014
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    Congrats on the new apartment! :slight_smile:

    It might be the perfect hangout spot for a date, you never know! :grin:
     
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    Thanks everyone.

    It's in the downtown grid, walking distance to all sorts of stuff. Hoping it will be a nice place to hang out, plus close to lots of places to be social. Really going to do everything I can to break free of all of the shells I've surrounded myself with.

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    I've definitely spent a lot of time feeling things like shame and guilt, so why not try a few that feel better? :wink:
     
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    why not indeed:kiss:
     
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    Wishing you the best for a great new beginning, CyclingFan.
     
    #7 likethewind, Aug 7, 2014
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    GO CF.... Hope you're happy!
     
    #8 Richie., Aug 8, 2014
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    Great steps in a new direction--the right direction! Congratulations.
     
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    Hi CyclingFan

    I empathise with the feelings of sadness and guilt but a place of your own will give you the space to grow as an individual and fully develop as a gay guy without feeling guilty about seeing guys whilst living in the same house as your wife.

    Hugs SGG (*hug*)(*hug*)
     
    #10 SaleGayGuy, Aug 8, 2014
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    Congratulations. I can identify with the mixed feelings, but lean into the positive and exciting ones at this time.
     
    #11 marriedover50, Aug 8, 2014
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    Best wishes on the new chapter of your adventure. :slight_smile:
     
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    Thanks again for all of the kind words and encouragement. I'm supposed to be pack up a lot today to move in Sunday and having a hard time getting moving.
     
    #13 CyclingFan, Aug 9, 2014
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    CF sure there will all of those feelings but before long it will feel like home as you put yourself into the place. It will get better. Congrats!
     
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    Thanks, qm. Today it's just more of my ol pal procrastination. :slight_smile:

    So much to do and I don't know where to start. I guess anywhere is ok since it's almost all gotta go.
     
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    you can procrastinate on monday, this weekend you need to move your stuff friend.

    ---------- Post added 9th Aug 2014 at 04:14 PM ----------

    pick the closest thing to you and move that, then the next thing........
     
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    Well, the move went pretty well. I'm still in need of some furniture, so there wasn't too much massive stuff.

    Now the unpacking begins. At least I do have my bed set up already so it's ready when I crash out. :slight_smile:
     
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    So, did what could with the apartment. Tired, hungry. Walked over to a casual place I've driven into town plenty of times to eat before. Something that is not part of my usual experience...everyone else here is LGBT.

    Interesting.
     
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    Well, this week has been nothing but huge unexpected bills and emotional tumult.

    My car completely died yesterday in a way that really scared me. Might be another large bill on the immediate horizon.

    Life, eh?

    :bang::roflmao::tears::tantrum:
     
    #20 CyclingFan, Aug 15, 2014
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