Hi y'all, My apologies if this topic has already been discussed. I came out about a year ago, when I finally acknowledged to myself compulsive masturbation almost exclusively to twink porn and adolescent homosexual attractions. I had been satisfied and faithful sexually with women but haven't had a romantic relationship in 3 years.. I have tried sex over the past year with age-appropriate men, and cannot get sexually or emotionally excited. Only teen and twenty-something boys and young men really turn me on sexually and I haven't experienced that for twenty-five years. Obviously there wouldn't be relationship material there today. Could I, or should I be satisfied continuing to just be a practicing heteroromantic with ephebophillic fantasies and stop this gay "nonsense"? Thanks!
Hi, If you feel sexual attraction to younger men, this is not unusual. However, to associate these fantasies with being gay or to consider this being gay as nonsense speaks volumes about what you think being gay is about. In response to your second thread, our advisor, Jim, stated it quite well; being gay is more than sex and if you can conceive of an emotional connection with another man, perhaps you will find that older gentlemen have more to offer because they know what you know, and because they should be a little more mature (which is essential for any healthy relationship), however there is no guarantee of maturity at any age. No one here could tell you whether you should be satisfied with hetero-romantic liaisons, while continuing with your ephebophillic fantasies, that is for you to decide (and presumably not act upon). However, should you choose to explore what it is like to be emotionally involved with a man, you may find that your attractions could change...something to consider.
