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Who knew he was gay?

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by LOSTONE10, Aug 18, 2014.

  1. LOSTONE10

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    Sure in the bloody he not me. I am not stupid, but wow, he seem so straight that I never knew he was gay. Sure glad I found out.

    There is this guy at my work. A few years older than me, ( I’m 42 ). He is single, good looking, very well manner, and so no drama with him. I asked him Saturday at work, what he was doing Monday on his day off? You know, just in general conversation. We both have the same work schedule. He said he was going to just relax and maybe go out to a bar for a drink or something. Nothing much of anything. He knows I don’t drink, but for whatever reason asked if I wanted to hang out with him Monday. I said sure, why not. I didn’t have any real plans anyways. So did not know he was gay.

    So Monday morning came and I met him at his apartment. He invited me in while he finish getting cleaned up. That is where I noticed something I don’t think he planned on me seeing. I seen some dvd movies. Some where clearly gay porn. I was shocked and didn’t know what to do or think. This guy watches gay porn? Is he gay? No way. Not him. Never. Oops, I was wrong. I lost track of my situation and pulled the movies out to get a better look at the titles. That’s where he came out and saw me and what I was doing. He clearly was caught off guard and stood dead in place.

    When I finally realized he was there, I apologize, but he didn’t reply. I didn’t want to upset him, but I did asked him about the gay porn. If it was his? If he was bi or gay or wondering? He sat down next to me on the sofa and asked if could keep a secret. I said of course. He then told me he was gay, but very private about it cause in our area where we live, gay is still a stigma and issue. Totally got that. He clearly was nervous sharing this with me and I felt bad for him. So, me being me, I told him my secret. I am pretty sure I am gay too, but also keep it private for the same reason. He was shocked. Hell, we both were shocked at each other.

    I asked him if he had ever been with a guy and he said yes, but it’s been a while. I told him I never have been but so looking forward to my first time. I can’t remember what we talked about after that cause he ended up kissing me and my mind was blown away in a hell yes mode. I kind of made that obvious I think cause he kissed me several times more involved to be clean about it. We kind of got into the whole making out thing with each other. What blew me away was how comfortable and easy I found it to be with a guy. I just fell right into the whole thing without hesitation. That is odd.

    We talked more about us being gay and his gay porn stuff. We didn’t watch any porn, but he did suggest that we can later in the week on our next day off. I told him I’m okay with that, but no sex unless there is a negative std test for both of us and keep in mine I never been sexual with a man. He said he is std free, but won’t push sex with me. We can just hang out, watch gay porn, and relax. Even suggested we do it nude. I am okay with that and honesty, look forward to doing this with him. He is good looking and have a great personality. I can see him and me colliding sexually and maybe even as partners. We’ll see what happens this week, but if he is std free and I know I am, maybe my time has come.

    Boy, I never had a clue he was gay, but I am so happy I know now.
     
  2. Candace

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    That's interesting! I'm kinda the same way. No one would figure that I'm gay unless they saw my computer's history or my movie collection :lol:.

    Anyway, I'm glad to see that you're perhaps starting something, a bond between both of you. Congrats :eusa_clap :slight_smile:
     
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    Sounds like the start of a potentially great thing. (!) I hope all works out.
     
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    wow, good for both of you. watching porn in the nude? just make sure there are condoms, just in case things move in that direction. Very cool for you.
     
  5. Benway

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    Just don't let your boss find out. I got fired from Staples for wearing one of those old rubber rainbow equality 'cause' bracelets a few years ago. -_-