Jerk etiquette?

For me, I think it would be fair no matter what you choose to do. I don't think you really owe this guy anything, for sure. But if you were interested you could at least make contact and give him the opportunity to explain his terrible behaviour! If you are not interested, then maybe just quietly move along.

I am however pleased that you chose this forum to clearly vent your anger and disappointment. I certainly understand your feelings and think that they are very valid!

Deep breath...and let it go?

 

Totally fair. Ignore that crap.

 

I'm not the best guy to give advice here, since I don't have this experience. However, my instinct would be to ignore this jerk. While it's possible that he "lost" your number, not responding through the dating site to get it again, and making no other meaningful effort to contact you before reappearing several months later would indicate to me that he's just looking for a fuck buddy rather than a real relationship.

Of course, this could just be me being cynical. In the end, it's entirely up to you what to do with this - if you're still interested, and think that he's good for you, then by all means reach out to him. However, don't feel under any obligation to simply because he reached out to you several months after the fact.

 

Drop him...no further contact. "I'm in an open relationship"...walk away. Meet for coffee at the other's suggestion...give dates you're open...no response...forget it. On- line just seem to suck. A friend has had three horrific experiences, all liars in one fashion or another. I would also say anyone whose photo is nude or they're sending you crotch shots before you know their real name isn't worth pursuing. The gay community seems to be a tad too focused on one's own self-pleasure rather than establishing relationships, but many of you know this already.

 

The question you should ask yourself is: "Would I buy a used car from this man?"

If the answer is NO, then why would you want to have a more serious relationship than that with him? Even on the last day of the sales month, when you might get a better offer from him.

 

Did he say that he was last owned by a little old lady from Pasadena who never took hm out of the garage?
His job defines him.
Do you want to be defined the same way by being with him?

 

I don't think that this is a gay community thing as much as it's a guy thing. I am sure most straight women have tons of such stories.

 

My sentiments exactly--sometimes people are disappointing and there's generally not much to be gained by not letting it go and moving on...