Hi I am really struggling with my sexuality and need some advice... I have been married for several years now and have lived a regular heterosexual life but over the last few months have been questioning my sexuality. In my teens I had a couple of gay encounters and since then I have always fantasised about men as well as having straight fantasies. The frequency of gay fantasies has varied sometimes they have been more frequent and sometimes less, however over the last 5 years or so my fantasies have been almost exclusively about men. I have occasionally watched porn, both straight and gay but found gay porn much more arousing than straight. I also find that when I see I good looking guy that I feel really excited and that I don’t really get the same feeling when I see an attractive women. I had a couple of girlfriends before I met my wife and always thought of myself as straight but am questioning that now. I'd really appreciate any advice or comments particularly from other married guys as I am very confused... Thanks
Hello bej21! Your story is exactly like mine minus the gay experiences as a teen. I am married, but finally had the courage to tell my wife last night that I am gay. It was a very difficult thing to do, but I felt that I owed it to her to be honest to her, and especially myself. This took me years to do, but I am relieved that I came out to her. You will have to decide on the timing as to if and when you will come out to her. Just sharing my experience. I wish you all the best!