Does everyone's ex wife threaten to take their kids and home and everything away them

Re: Does everyone's ex wife threaten to take their kids and home and everything away

Lawyer time.

 

Re: Does everyone's ex wife threaten to take their kids and home and everything away

Hi,

Nope.

My wife is supportive and kids are adults.

Tom

 

Re: Does everyone's ex wife threaten to take their kids and home and everything away

hey Richie, its definatly time for a lawyer for you my friend. im in a bit of a unique situation from most here i think. i came out to myself after we split and none of the family know yet, my house is protected from her because its my late grandmothers house, and my son wants to stay with me. i still needed a awyer so you definatly do bud. as for your kids, fight to keep access to them.

 

Re: Does everyone's ex wife threaten to take their kids and home and everything away

I had a very messy splitup with my first sons mother, screaming and shouting at a lot of weekends picking him up etc, went on for bloody ages the cow!
Fine now, friends almost... Orrible for ages, ended up taking.her to court and shit also.. We did ok for a few years before that, and since has been fine.

TRy not to let it get to you Richie, sounds like she will be a cow for a while.
Ita going to be a game of hurts to try to wound you, dont stoop to that level though.
For the first 10 years after we split, i looked after my son each weekend, other than 3, or four, over ten years, and commuting from London to north Wales every week... Never ever got out, never find myself.. And the after that, court and then 50/50.. Lol, three days one week, and four days the next... For a few years and he 17 now and all over almost.
After i stood up to her and took her to court for parental rights issues she backed down and it all became ok, well after a couple of more years i guess sigh..well that was my twenties and thirties gone lol!
All good, worth it im sure..
hard if your not in a relationship to keep you busy and motivated and strong
I didnt have sex for 10 years also.... But I was a pushover, didnt stand up for myself for a decade, payed loads of money I should not have etc...
The courts look at each parent, and dont just side with the mother, though that counts for a lot obiously.
Go speak to a family solicitor - they specialise.in this and will give you a free half hour to discuss.
As I say, I managed for ten years without courts, and would not encourage that route unless you have the money, and ita that bad. The first thing I had to do after sorting.the summons, was not see my son for ten weeks, our lives still never the same since then the bitch.. Lol, im not bitter atall! More annoyed at myself for lettingit get that bad...
courts made it worse, but iltimatley better, as it shook her up and we started talking.again. Bloody crazy.
Hope you.cqn both speak more without waiting years and years. I guess.she might be trying to push you away also, to get space for recovery, its hard for all when kids about, as you have to see each ithr regualrly, lol, get a nice boyfriend and he sweet talks her into being reasnoble!
Document the occurances and wheyou see the kids etc, two years of proof overrides.the mothers opinion, and can get custordy.. Anyhow that's a little down the line...

Hang on in the bud...

A song for you, now I know you dont like cheesy hard core, but the "titanium" club hit is a majik shield maker, "take your shot, ricochet I am titanium" or something.

 

Re: Does everyone's ex wife threaten to take their kids and home and everything away

Hi Richie, have you been to the citizens advice bureau? there will be people there who will be able to help you

 

Re: Does everyone's ex wife threaten to take their kids and home and everything away

Not all, my friends family literally asked him to choose (but he was 13 so i guess thats different to a 3 year old)

 

Re: Does everyone's ex wife threaten to take their kids and home and everything away

Richie, document everything, that means date time and place, a summary of the events and don't put it off even a few hours later, you will forget the details. Print every e-mail, text, etc.

You have rights, and you're going to have to fight for them. It is indeed lawyer time.

 

Re: Does everyone's ex wife threaten to take their kids and home and everything away

And why does she think she needs to threaten you? This is not a normal reaction. It can be a selfdefence (a bad one). Does she have a reason to feel threatened by you or by your divorce?

 

Re: Does everyone's ex wife threaten to take their kids and home and everything away

Like Molly1977, I'd suggest a visit to Citizens Advice with as much documentary evidence as you can supply. They have a wealth of knowledge and expertise in these matters and will work with mediators and legal representatives, if it comes to it.

It's very sad that she is taking an acrimonious approach. Nobody benefits from such hostility.

 

Re: Does everyone's ex wife threaten to take their kids and home and everything away

Rich, as you know I'm going through a divorce and even if I wanted to which I don't I couldn't take the kids away. Unless you are unfit in someway she hasn't a hope. In fact now courts are looking more and more at shared custody. My husband threatened the same, the solicitor just laughed and said let him try. Depression isn't a valid reason if you are worried about that. Go to the CAB as Molly suggested it will put your mind at rest.

 

Re: Does everyone's ex wife threaten to take their kids and home and everything away

Hi all, not to digress but what is the CAB? If's it like the Legal Aid Society here in the US, by all means Richie please contact them at once.

 

Re: Does everyone's ex wife threaten to take their kids and home and everything away

Richie,

Splits can be hard in any relationship. It all depends on maturity levels of the couple.