Hiya I am 30 years old and have always known I was bisexual but have never told anyone. I was always more attracted to women. I have never had a relationship with a woman and the only serious relationship I have had with a man was violent. I have been single for over three years and I feel ready to start a relationship. I can't imagine ever being with a man again. The thought makes me feel sick. I have always been attracted to women but don't have the courage to do anything about it. I'm really shy. I haven't told my family or my 11 year old son. I think they would be supportive. I guess I just wanted to talk. Thanks xx
Welcome to the EC, this is a great place to talk. I'm 40 and I'm recently single and have never had a relationship with a woman. I guess we are similar in that way. Sounds like you are ready to start looking. I'm still sorting out my divorce so not quite there but wish I was. There are lots of groups where you can start if you look around. Where do you live?
Thanks for replying. I'm from Bradford. How about you? Think I need to tell someone first. Just a bit nervous! Have you told people? Xx
I'm from Shropshire. I've told some close friends and my counsellor. My mum knows but hasn't accepted it. Some of my friends have been really supportive, others not so much. Have you got anyone you want to tell?
I have been seeing a bereavement counsellor who has also helped me in other areas of my life. I think I Will tell her. I want to speak to my mum or sister and think they will be ok. I find talking about myself difficult. Just want to be honest about who I am. I hope your mum comes round soon.That must be hardxx
It sounds like you are ready to tell you family. My mum said she will support Me but doesn't want me to tell anyone or socialise with gay people. Obviously I don't find that very supportive so I have sort of become closeted around her. My dad and sister don't know. My counsellor has been amazing. I was very messed up when I first went. I was in love with a woman who I never told but she turned her back on me when I told her I was Bi. She was the first oerson i ever told. She isn't homophobic as she is bi too. I don't think she could cope with my marriage problems as she has gone through it herself. I found it so hard when she wouldn't talk to me anymore and cried for months at the counsellor. Then my marriage broke down too and she has supported me through that. I have some good friends though who have totally supported me so it's not all gloom doom! I think if you have people who are there for you it will be so much easier if you tell them. You can be yourself then.
You sound like a really strong person. Glad you have friends that support you. My mum will be ok but don't always find talking to her easy. She finds it difficult to accept that I didn't turn to her when I was in a dv relationship. We lost my dad to brain cancer last year so things have been hard. Think I need to just be honest xx
Sorry to hear about you dad, that's really hard. I guess that makes you look at life differently. Happiness is important, life is too short not to enjoy it. I'm stronger now, but I wasn't, I was a real mess. I realised my husband had controlled me in so many ways. He wasn't violent or anything thank goodness but he likes to be the boss. We have lost friends in the past because of his attitude but they have come back to me now. You have been through a lot by the sound of it. From what you are saying I would tell your family. With all that they and you have been through I think they will just want you to be happy. A clean slate, what a lovely prospect for you.
Thanks so much for listening to me. I am so determined to move forward and get my life back on track. Sounds like you've been through a lot too. Here's to moving forward Xx
Anytime! I've talked a lot to people on here. There are some really lovely people. You take care and you are in the right place here. Keep posting threads you will get lots of advice. Here anytime you need a chat. Keep smiling x
welcome to EC ! Just remember we are friends here and I wish only the best for you. I know you will find alot of good freinds here .I am not sure what to say about you problems because i have not been threw it but good luck someone else here has been threw it and I am sure they will help you .
