last night at supper my son asked me if i was some part of the LGBT spectrum, his words. i wanted to say YES!!! but until the divorce and custody is settled my doctor, my therapist and my intuition says wait. i told him i wasn't ready to talk about anything like that right now. he said that if i was he would be supportive but that it would be a shock to have someone he knows to turn out to be 180 degrees from what he thought he knew. that made my stomach drop a bit, but i know he'll be fine ( i hope) at least i can tell him it isn't 180 degrees, more like 90. it was a perfect time but not yet. it kills me not to be able to be open with him as i have made it a policy to never lie to him about important things.
I hate the word "technically", but...technically you didn't lie to him. You were honest when you told him that you weren't ready to talk about it yet. You may not be able to be as open with him as you want to right now, but you will be soon. And that is what matters. On the plus side, he said he would be supportive, and I think that's a huge relief. At least you know that now. And you know that he suspects. It will take some time for him to get used to it, sure, but you're still the same person, you're still the same dad that he's always had. I think eventually he'll see that. Good luck (*hug*)
when you put it like that, you might be right but i still have to tell him face to face. ---------- Post added 14th Oct 2014 at 04:08 PM ---------- on levels i dont even want to think about. but for non LGBT issues. more her self destructive behaviour that endangered the kid. that's why he lives with me. ---------- Post added 14th Oct 2014 at 04:09 PM ---------- he's smarter than the average bear for sure. but i still need to say it to him.
What Basil said. You just have to fill in the exact angle for him, if it is 90 rather than 180. Custody issues or not, he loves you, so hug him and reassure him that everything is going to be ok, which it is.
